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antisocial neighbours

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Worthit Tue 18-Aug-15 15:13:30

What do you do when an antisocial neighbour performs his deeds out of the sight and hearing of others except you? Authorities say you must have evidence. Not legal to film him. He is on his own property so nothing you can do.

elena Tue 18-Aug-15 15:19:11

That sounds intriguing, Worthit....if it's out of sight and hearing of others, how do you hear and see it (whatever it is smile )? You could try logging the incidents, just writing them down as they happen.

If what he is doing is actually legal, then not sure what you could do even then.

But if it's calculated to cause you a nuisance, then you could see if your community policeman could give advice on what to do.Deliberately being a nuisance could be seen as harrassment.

soontobe Tue 18-Aug-15 16:15:12

Where are you when this happens?

DotMH1901 Tue 18-Aug-15 16:41:12

My next door neighbour's daughter films the birds and foxes etc that come into their garden - their camera is in a back bedroom but also captures most of my garden too - could this be a solution for you to try? They didn't tell me about the camera for ages until they spotted someone using my garden as a cut through to the footpath!

vampirequeen Tue 18-Aug-15 21:39:05

What is he doing that's anti-social?

How come no one else sees or hears him? Do you live somewhere isolated?

Although you can't film whatever he's doing in his garden, you can record any noise.

Alea Tue 18-Aug-15 22:00:20

I don't know if this counts as anti social behaviour, but wanted to share it for a giggle, just to show that life can provide the occasional chuckle
I was walking Grace the other night before bedtime and she stopped to do what a dog has got to do behind a house round the corner from us. The owner is a man in his late 50's/maybe 60's, divorced but seems to have a succession of rather younger lady friends, the latest is E European and I would guess in her 20's. He must have hidden depths as he's no oil painting, but a nice enough chap. As I said Grace had stopped on the road behind their back garden underneath an open bedroom window. . . . .
Well as I said, he clearly has hidden depths and you could say he was doing something right!!winkwink
Once I realised what I was hearing, of course I did my best to get Grace to hurry up and move on. I do hope I don't see him for a day or two, I just know I'll blushblush

Ana Tue 18-Aug-15 22:04:21

Good gracious, I've only just realised why you seemed so familiar, yet somehow different, Alea!

Marmark1 Wed 19-Aug-15 08:43:02

Worthit,next time you see him poke him in the eye with a sharp stick.
JUST KIDDING,

Marmark1 Wed 19-Aug-15 08:48:17

Alea,you see all sorts when you walk the dog,my friend said she used to see a man having a shower. I said,you could walk a different way,but she said she didn't want to.

Elegran Wed 19-Aug-15 08:59:05

When I watch those TV property programmes I sometimes wonder what the neighbours think of the marvellous bathrooms with floor-to-ceiling windows and no blinds or curtains. Some of them look out onto deep woods - all the world and his dog could be in among those trees.

annsixty Wed 19-Aug-15 09:02:46

The penny has just dropped with me Ana

Elegran Wed 19-Aug-15 09:18:58

When I read that, annsixty, I assumed at first that you were referring to Worthit's neighbour's antisocial activities, and thought that he must have a good compost heap.

Grannyknot Wed 19-Aug-15 09:20:37

I have no idea who the shape-shifter Gransnetter is confused

re anti-social behaviour, I'm not sure what can actually be achieved by complaining to the relevant authorities. My daughter moved into a flat in North London where in due course a nightclub opened across the road. She could not sleep, the noise was unbearable, and the bus-stop that the drunken clubbers used as a loo waited at was below her bedroom window. She did all the right things, recorded, reported and then would tell me that "I now have the nightclub racket, plus the noise monitoring people from the local authority arrived at 1 a.m. and stayed for hours". This went on for months and nothing happened. She moved somewhere else.

Her and her husband have just taken occupation of their long-awaited first home together, and the neighbour next door constantly swears loudly at his children and his wife. So - what would you do about that? My SIL won't do anything about it e.g. "having a word" because he is too scared - he has been attacked by some thugs once before (they took his phone) and ended up in hospital with concussion.

Alea Wed 19-Aug-15 11:08:44

You don't hurry Muttley when she is in crouching mode, not unless you have half a dozen poo bags to deal with a trail of you know what shock

Anne58 Wed 19-Aug-15 11:21:57

I really want to know what this man is doing! Or do I............confused

(It might be another thing that we need a "bleurgh" emoticon for)

vampirequeen Wed 19-Aug-15 14:44:16

Me too. What does this man do?

Anya Wed 19-Aug-15 15:21:46

Careful .....if this is a wind up this may be the one question the OP will answer shock

Stansgran Wed 19-Aug-15 16:59:16

Totally lost.

Alea Wed 19-Aug-15 21:28:04

Are we talking about skinny yoga? That downward dog might be a bit dodgy.
Lawn mowing in the buff?
Not DADDY DANCING?
Talking to his plants and flowers?
Sunbathing?
Reading the Daily Wail?
Oh no, not weeing on the compost?

My imagination is running out. Come on Grannies, what do you think he might be doing?

Ana Wed 19-Aug-15 21:30:37

Probably flashing, but Worthit doesn't seem bothered enough about the problem to come back on the thread...hmm

Alea Wed 19-Aug-15 21:36:06

Thinking of soontobe's question yesterday,
where are you when this happens?

Maybe the answer is 'hanging out of the window by my toenails, binoculars at the ready" or am I being unfair? grin

vampirequeen Thu 20-Aug-15 11:00:43

Perhaps he:

bounces naked on a trampoline in the middle of the night

has midnight bbqs

wears an astronaut suit to stargaze

harrigran Thu 20-Aug-15 11:19:34

We used to have a neighbour who tootled down the garden with just a short dressing gown flapping open and completely starkers underneath. I think he thought the garden walls hid him but he never looked up, I was in a top floor flat with a view over all the gardens grin

Ana Thu 20-Aug-15 11:29:03

Alea! grin

vampirequeen Thu 20-Aug-15 16:09:34

When we got I first flat our kitchen window was opposite the nextdoor flat window. My OH (now ex) insisted on doing the washing up as I did the cooking. How nice, I thought. We were both 18 and worked full time. Then I found out the woman in the flat opposite washed her pots topless.