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Will making

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hildajenniJ Mon 06-Feb-17 20:51:23

A little off topic, but related. My husband wants our son to make a funeral plan! I told him that he shouldn't bring this subject up with a 32 yr old. He'll come to that in his own good time. Husband says "well I'm not going to pay for his funeral". To which I rolled my eyes. I hope he outlives us both.

Cunco Mon 06-Feb-17 18:54:00

I guess it depends the reason for not making a will. If it is expense, it might be better to have a DIY will than no will at all.

What is certain is that somebody will have to sort out the assets of the person who dies and if that person has any preference where they go, a will is a must. Otherwise, it is all dictated by government rules.

Surely, it is better to have a will with your choice of executor than an outsider who, if solicitors are involved, will charge a fee. This article might help:

www.telegraph.co.uk/finance/personalfinance/6438627/What-happens-if-you-die-without-a-will.html

There are also lots of information websites including Government and Citizens Advice Bureau. Hope this helps.

Ana Mon 06-Feb-17 17:49:44

I don't know how you could persuade him, other than to make it clear to him that his estate will be divided equally between his two children, estranged or not, if he dies without making a Will.

Other than that, there's nothing you can do - I don't think 'persuasion' sounds like a good idea, tbh...

PoshGran Mon 06-Feb-17 17:44:05

Does anyone have any experience in successfully persuading a family member into making a will?

My brother is nearly 80 & has not made a will. He owns outright a small property (some 200 miles away from me) & has two offspring from his first marriage, one of whom he has been estranged from for 40-plus years. He lost his second wife three years ago, there were no children.

We have only really become close in the last five years or so & I have gently raised the issue as he has increasingly problematic health issues. His spoken wishes are that only his son benefits, but despite my pointing out that legally "Wishes are not Wills" he still has not done anything.

I think that my nephew (who lives even further away) & I need to start the difficult conversation between us, but I would welcome your suggestions as to what course we could consider. Has anyone been persuaded to make a will after resisting for a long time?
What do you reckon?