Too many people are being kept alive too long, that's the brutal truth of it. I was visiting care homes for more years than I care to remember - my mother alone was in hers from the age of 89 to 97 - and I've seen so many poor old things with bad dementia and frankly a very poor quality of life, so often so confused or distressed about something they could not even name - being stuffed with medication to keep them 'healthy', in and out of hospital, on drips, badgered and pestered to eat and drink when they no longer want to...
All with the best of intentions, but so much 'striving to keep alive' when frankly letting Nature take its course would IMO often be a good deal kinder.
I am not talking about anyone who is still getting enjoyment out of life. Sadly, so many with dementia are not.
I am still haunted by the poor lady well into her 80s at my mother's care home, who was crying and so distressed for ages during their Christmas party - she wouldn't go and I was sitting upstairs with my mother who was no longer capable of enjoying it - crying and so distressed because she had to get home to her mother who didn't know where she was and would be so worried...
The staff were brilliant and so kind, but absolutely nothing could comfort her.
And that's just one case.