Gransnet forums

Legal, pensions and money

Page 2 of 2 | First | Previous | Next | Last
| Flip | Customise |

So scared and worried about my security

(33 Posts)
Add comment | Report
Jaye53 Wed 06-May-20 10:03:16

Oh dear you need a solicitor ASAP.

Add comment | Report
Phloembundle Wed 06-May-20 09:58:02

OMG. See a solicitor now.

Add comment | Report
granbabies123 Wed 06-May-20 09:51:29

So who is going to pay his share of bills if he goes into care. Will son take this on . I would talk to someone and get your position clear but not tell him you are checking ,he could change wording of will then you would have a fight on unfortunately. Best wishes

Add comment | Report
Riverwalk Wed 06-May-20 05:47:45

As has been said, open an account in your own name, keep the bulk of your money/income in there, and only pay the amount to cover your share of the costs into the joint account each month.

If your husband dies before you, who knows how his son will behave regarding the house - you might find that you would want to leave rather than face problems, I know I would.

Add comment | Report
Kiwigramz Wed 06-May-20 02:51:10

I think if I were you I would take out an account in your own name. You could pay your share of items from this. You should do this to safeguard your money.

The Will having been ,made whist your husband has capacity gives you a lifetime interest so you cannot be forced out.

You must ensure your money is safe and do it now. I hope this will give you peace of mind.

Add comment | Report
Fiachna50 Wed 06-May-20 02:20:19

Why on earth, given his son's troubled history, did your husband make him POA? It leaves you in a very vulnerable position. Im sorry to say that this is the problem with alot of second marriages. I would be taking advice from a solicitor asap. If ( God forbid) anything happens to your husband, you need to know what your positiòn is and tell the solicitor about the POA.

Add comment | Report
Luckygirl Tue 05-May-20 23:04:57

I think you need to contact CAB or a solicitor. It is a complex situation and important that you know where you stand.

Add comment | Report
Livlass Tue 05-May-20 23:00:00

Hi everyone, Am so nervous and hope this isn’t too long.. Have been married to second husband for three years. Am living in his house. After we married he said that in his new will he,d put the house in trust for his two AC. I would be allowed to stay in the house till either I wish to leave or die. He is 80 and I am 74. Luckily at the moment we are fit and healthy,but I realise that could change in an instant. We have two joint bank accounts, into which we put same amount every month to pay household bills. Problem is he has given his son Power of Attorney in case he has to go into a care home.This son has been into drugs and alcohol and to be quite honest is not stable. I know that if I was living here by myself I would be terrified and hounded to death because they would want the house sold. My question is, If my husband goes into a home and obviously the son has control of his Dads finances, would that entitle him to have access to the joint bank accounts as well ?

Page 2 of 2 | First | Previous | Next | Last
| Flip | Customise |