PippaZ
I didn't get the nuance in the post Sat 22-May-21 23:22:58 Doodledog. Oh for facial expressions and tone of voice. I don't think it does act as a disincentive but you can see that it might and certainly, some must wonder why they had tried.
Yes, a lot is lost in translation in text.
My MIL is in that sort of situation. Her widow's pension takes her to just over the cut-off for pension credit (she is in her 90s, and like most women of her generation has no occupational pension of her own). Her late husband's pension was generous at one time, but inflation has eroded it.
Her neighbour did qualify for pension credit, and got all sorts of benefits as a result, putting her in a position where she was significantly better off than my MIL.
It's not a judgement on either of them - the system is and always was weighted against women in the first place, but they have both had similar lives, and it seems very wrong that one should be treated so differently from the other.