Spending money on yourself - easy or hard?

I think you are jolly brave if it is anything like the Danish liquorice I tried...

It was very very salty

Chocolate chocolate and more chocolate sorry can't resist don't feel guilty at all

I don't believe there is anything wrong with treating yourself to something you really want if you can afford it. Why not? It's important to keep yourself happy (and others too but not at the expense of your own happiness) so if buying something you would really like is important to you and makes you happy .... and you can afford it .....then go for it!

I finally got round to buying three new jumpers in the Woolovers sale. I haven’t had any new ones for several years and I’d started darning them. This was rapidly followed by 3 thermal vests for DH as he feels the cold. Oh, and the new Vax stick as the Dyson wasn’t doing the job at all.

Do people point out to you, very helpfully, that you're hobbling, MissAdventure?
As if you didn't know?

MissAdventure

Yes, still hobbling around, Calistemon.
I asked for recommendations a couple of years ago, on here (just in case I wasted money) in comfortable shoes.

However, I've now realised it's my feet, so have made a saving there.

It's my feet too, MissAdventure.
I don't think God was concentrating when he got to that bit of making me.

I know just what you mean. I've spent over £1,500 on presents for Christmas and I'm agonising about buying myself a box of cocoa dusted almonds, I love them and DH will often give me some money for a treat before Christmas. Here's hoping.

If I would like something and I can afford it, and will use it, I get it. Why not? I can see absolutely no virtue in denying yourself something that you can afford and can and will use and which gives you pleasure. We all constantly make decisions on balancing what our income is and priorities are.

We all have our own personal list of spending priorities and the OP obviously gets more pleasure from her acts of charity than anything else and this is why she does not often indulge in luxuries like this and why she gets such pleasure on the rare occasions when she does.

I used to find it very easy, until I realised how much’stuff’ I had. Now I prefer to spend it on family and local charities.

I just went a little weak at the knees at the though of going into Liberty and buying a handbag. What a lovely treat and a treasure to last forever.

One of my weaknesses is books, I spend a lot of money having them sent from UK. I really dislike reading e-books.
My husband & I like eating out so we often go out for lunch. We were discussing this the other day and said how when we were young we never went to restaurants unless it was a really special occasion.

Well done GA. I too struggle to spend on myself, even to the point of not spending the money MiL has given me for Christmases and birthdays over the past 12 years! I feel I have everything I need and am truly grateful for the fact but I came from a family where every penny mattered and my mum didn’t spend on herself, so like you I baulk at personal extravagance.
My son tells me that Christmas and birthdays are the time to ask for something indulgent so for the last few years I have asked him for a donation to a local homeless shelter. Not money, DS gives me a budget, then the two of us go out shopping for food and other items the shelter are in need of. We have a great time shopping together, he gives me a present that I really want and I don’t end up with a stuff that sits in a drawer. I love it.

Having been brought up quite strictly, on the ‘children seen and not heard’ method, I only had the basic needs, few treats.
Now I can easily spend on myself, but I do like getting a bargain. I also enjoy buying presents, so I suppose I like shopping!
Not boring food shopping .

My sentences are making less and less sense.
Nonsentences.

Yes, still hobbling around, Calistemon.
I asked for recommendations a couple of years ago, on here (just in case I wasted money) in comfortable shoes.

However, I've now realised it's my feet, so have made a saving there.

I frequently spend money on myself, but nothing expensive, if that makes sense. The odd (boxed) hair dye, a bottle of foundation, clothes, etc. I got myself a new t-shirt today - £6 from Morrison's!

Honestly GA if anyone deserves to treat themselves it's you. I find it easier to spend money on me since DH died. I feel now that I haven't got endless years stretching in front of me and if I want to enjoy something now then why not?

Never ever had any money when the children were young and they always came first. Now that I can afford to spend on myself I prefer quality over quantity and think long and hard before spending anything at all. Old habits die hard.

My biggest indulgence recently has been a Liberty handbag.
I will look after it and still be using for many years hopefully.
I go for quality not quantity.

Having grown up with little and brought up my family on little, I am quite frugal, though I am happy to spend if I can find something worthwhile. Last year in lockdown I treated myself to a new ring, as we didn't go out for months. I spend money on subscriptions( eg choirs, ancestry) but my only personal luxury is to get my hair done every six weeks.

I could spend £50 on something but not liquorice, grannyactivist

Enjoy it

I find it a bit easier now.

I used to go for quantity over quality, buy whatever was cheapest in sales etc and then find it just ruined quickly or I didn't really wear it.

If I was given money for Christmas or my birthday I would end up spending it all on the children.

Now I buy better quality things and treat myself more often. I've come to understand this is self care.

I cannot buy easily for myself, but it’s very easy to spend on everyone else
My Dad was exactly the same
I m glad you found the way to do it Grannyactivist with your £50 but I m reeling at the thought of £50 worth of liquorice ? doesn’t it cause you to ? a lot

I’m getting better at it. Enjoy the liquorice grannyactivist one of my favourites too.

I can spend money on myself quite easily although I would never spend what I don't have, so not likely to get into debt. I might not be around for much longer so I don't see why I should not have what I want, within reason. I mostly buy clothes (not expensive ones), shoes, stuff for the garden and art supplies, oh yes, and I buy rather a lot of books for my kindle. I should add that my dh is a bit of a skinflint which reins me in somewhat!