I have set up a trust for any money I might leave my children. It was not done to avoid paying care fees as it only applies after I have died. It was set up because my eldest son, who lives in the US, was going through a toxic divorce and I wanted to avoid his wife ( now ex) to get her hands on anything. It is also likely that he will be declared bankrupt, the family house has already been foreclosed and my son has lost his job - on going nightmare not helped by his own mis spending!
I want my younger children to decide when and how their brother gets his share ( equal shares) or they could choose not to follow my letter of intent and revoke the trust immediately and share out the inheritance - I won’t know will I? I might even change things myself if my son manages to get back control of his life.
I would never use dodgy methods to hide my assets to avoid paying care fees. My mum lives in a care home and we have been able to make the right care decisions for her without going through social services. We did not have to beg for help, undergo assessments and put up with possibly inadequate care - four brief visits a day with a career rushing in and out would not have been appropriate for someone living on their own with dementia but that’s what mum would have had to put up with. Social Services/ LA go with the cheapest care option, which is not necessarily the best one.
If we all used these tactics to avoid paying for our own care, our children would be faced with horrendous taxes to pay for it. My hard earned money is for my use, for my retirement and comfort, not for my children!