Iam64
Mr I died early October. I completed the Tell us Once form when I registered his death 3 days later. I closed our joint account from early December . I phoned the DWP bereavement line to arrange my winter fuel payment of 250, due after the date our joint account closed, would go into my new sole account.
The bereavement assistant said I would get Mr i’s winter fuel allowance. No she couldn’t arrange that. I’d to phone the winter fuel line. I waited another 30 mins, pressed option winter fuel allowance, automated voice told me ‘this line doesn’t deal with winter fuel, phone the same number press change or circs’. After another 30 min wait, a person told me she couldn’t deal with it --to phone the same number and press the winter fuel option
I began to feel I was being filmed for candid camera.
I wrote a letter. I’ve heard nothing, other than a letter telling me they intend to take Mr I’s state pension out of my account as despite me filling in correct forms, they paid his October pension and want it back
I'm so sorry. No need for bereaved to deal with stupid.
Is it time to interact alternating sweetness and inner assertive?
When I reach my limit - people are on my nerves because they're not listening while I'm as sweet as can be, the phone assistant and I are "friendly and conversing with logic" I begin being assertive if they can't "hear" me.
"I already phoned them, they said they couldn't help, surely you could figure this out correctly or send my call forward to the head of this department..."
Of course this is only my approach.