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Taking son to court

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Daftbag1 Fri 08-Sept-23 09:43:25

My son isnt a very nice person. He's in his mid 30's And over the last year, has played a true victim. He claimed he had very advanced cancer. Due to to this, I cashed in my only pension to make his life easier.

I then learnt that he was claiming that I was his birth mother but that I'd had him up for adoption. His adoptive parents had been killed in an accident. This had been going on for years.

Meanwhile, he was telling me that he had very advanced cancer, requiring daily treatments. He couldn't work, and he was about to be made homeless. There was a long convoluted story about his wife and. That she was hurting him.

As his mother, (I never placed him up for adoption). Then I discovered that his cancer was all in his mind. One big fat lie!!! Even. Worse he's been dealing drug's u

Anyway I have be been approacched by the police to give a statement

Would you make a statement or not???

pascal30 Fri 08-Sept-23 09:50:51

Just tell the truth

Germanshepherdsmum Fri 08-Sept-23 09:54:48

Who has involved the police?

Pumpkinpie Fri 08-Sept-23 09:59:57

Blood doesn’t exclude any responsibility. Talk to police

hollysteers Fri 08-Sept-23 10:03:55

I assume the police statement must be due to the drug dealing.
It’s up to you if you make a statement, but sadly he sounds as if he has mental health issues which often coincide with the taking of drugs.
A very difficult situation and you have my sympathy.

Doodledog Fri 08-Sept-23 10:17:39

There is, on the face of it, a lot of rumour in this story. Who told you that he was saying he'd been adopted, for instance? And that he was dealing drugs, or that the cancer story isn't true?

Have you spoken to your son about all this, or are you taking the word of the other person/people, and if so why?

We really need more information.

Hetty58 Fri 08-Sept-23 10:28:55

It just seems so strange to me - that a mother wouldn't be involved in hospital visits when her own son was so poorly.

Again, odd that she wouldn't be in contact with her daughter in law - or anyone else who knows him.

Obviously, he'd be entitled to disability benefits with very advanced cancer. Who would cash in their pension without checking the facts?

This whole sorry tale just doesn't add up to me.

Smileless2012 Fri 08-Sept-23 10:33:34

I agree with pascal. As Doodledog's posted, there does seem to be a lot of rumour but you cashed in your only pension believing him to have cancer which is a fact, not rumour.

M0nica Fri 08-Sept-23 14:18:53

A man like thiss will be full of 'reasons' (not excuses) as to why she cannot visit him in hospital, meet his wife etc etc.

The papers are full of such stories. Look at all the love rats who con their wives, mothers and friends out of their money, with stories thata everyone finds convincing, look at all those wives cheated and tricked out of everythingby mentally abusive and mani[ulativ husbands/boyfriends.

Yes, I find this story completely believeable.

What would I do in her place? I would make a statement to the police. A man like this has a personality disorder and is never going to be capable of thinking straight and not cheating and deceiving people.

If she does not make a statement, he will be back again to her with another story later which she will be convinced to beleive and then he will cheat her again. He will continue to do this again and again. he is capable of nothing else.

It is therefore essential she makes a statement to the police and does not withdraw it. She does not have to give evidence in court. But she must make the statement more than anything else to protect herself, now and in the future. She must be the one he can never fool.

Redhead56 Fri 08-Sept-23 14:33:46

Talk to the police and be rid of him.

Doodledog Fri 08-Sept-23 15:17:55

I'm not saying the story is not believable, but that a lot of it relies on hearsay that could be cleared up with a conversation.

M0nica Fri 08-Sept-23 17:04:23

Doodledog You cannot believe anything a man like this says in a conversation.

Doodledog Fri 08-Sept-23 17:21:21

We don't know what sort of man he is.

Has he got cancer? Someone has told the OP not. Has he told people he was adopted? We don't know.

Was his wife abusing him? We don't know.

Why are the police involved? What is the statement about?

Again, none of this information is in the OP. All of it is possible, but equally, none of it may be the case.