Taking son to court

We don't know what sort of man he is.

Has he got cancer? Someone has told the OP not. Has he told people he was adopted? We don't know.

Was his wife abusing him? We don't know.

Why are the police involved? What is the statement about?

Again, none of this information is in the OP. All of it is possible, but equally, none of it may be the case.

Doodledog You cannot believe anything a man like this says in a conversation.

I'm not saying the story is not believable, but that a lot of it relies on hearsay that could be cleared up with a conversation.

Talk to the police and be rid of him.

A man like thiss will be full of 'reasons' (not excuses) as to why she cannot visit him in hospital, meet his wife etc etc.

The papers are full of such stories. Look at all the love rats who con their wives, mothers and friends out of their money, with stories thata everyone finds convincing, look at all those wives cheated and tricked out of everythingby mentally abusive and mani[ulativ husbands/boyfriends.

Yes, I find this story completely believeable.

What would I do in her place? I would make a statement to the police. A man like this has a personality disorder and is never going to be capable of thinking straight and not cheating and deceiving people.

If she does not make a statement, he will be back again to her with another story later which she will be convinced to beleive and then he will cheat her again. He will continue to do this again and again. he is capable of nothing else.

It is therefore essential she makes a statement to the police and does not withdraw it. She does not have to give evidence in court. But she must make the statement more than anything else to protect herself, now and in the future. She must be the one he can never fool.

I agree with pascal. As Doodledog's posted, there does seem to be a lot of rumour but you cashed in your only pension believing him to have cancer which is a fact, not rumour.

It just seems so strange to me - that a mother wouldn't be involved in hospital visits when her own son was so poorly.

Again, odd that she wouldn't be in contact with her daughter in law - or anyone else who knows him.

Obviously, he'd be entitled to disability benefits with very advanced cancer. Who would cash in their pension without checking the facts?

This whole sorry tale just doesn't add up to me.

There is, on the face of it, a lot of rumour in this story. Who told you that he was saying he'd been adopted, for instance? And that he was dealing drugs, or that the cancer story isn't true?

Have you spoken to your son about all this, or are you taking the word of the other person/people, and if so why?

We really need more information.

I assume the police statement must be due to the drug dealing.
It’s up to you if you make a statement, but sadly he sounds as if he has mental health issues which often coincide with the taking of drugs.
A very difficult situation and you have my sympathy.

Blood doesn’t exclude any responsibility. Talk to police

Who has involved the police?

Just tell the truth