Skipping a generation

In the meantime he will know about the inheritance and his parents may well make a big deal of it. The money they would have if it wasn’t for him etc. if the relationship is so toxic why hasn’t your son left? Or is it just toxic to you, on the outside? You really do need to think very carefully about the consequences for your son and grandson of what you plan to do. You may secretly enjoy the revenge on your daughter in law (at your son’s expense) whilst you’re alive, but you really are sowing the seeds of a horrible situation. Discuss it with an experienced solicitor and be guided by them.

Well my Grandson will be an adult when he receives the inheritance and why will he feel guilty ? .. He already hears and sees an awful toxic relationship and this has gone on for years ...

What a sad situation. You will need to leave your assets to your grandchild and any other children your son may have in the future I think. That can be put into a will. I understand why you would want to do this, but I do think you should think carefully about it. Perhaps you could leave equal shares to your son and any children he may have in order to avoid bad feeling.

My parents made a will leaving everything between myself and sister but added to the will, it was stipulated that our share to be devided between myself and my children.
So regardless of how many children we each have they get a pro rata of our half.

I agree with GSM and others, do consider what upset you may leave behind in doing this Suzieque66 your actions may not have the intended results.

The child will at best be made to feel terribly guilty. The inheritance will be a burden and source of grief for him. Speak to a solicitor and put all your cards on the table.

Oh dear this doesn’t bode well does it ? you could be leaving your grandson open to abuse
I d be very cautious about doing this

I think this will cause terrible animosity, with the child in the middle of it. Hatred is not a good legacy to leave.

Suzieque66

Its not a simple matter ... We have been at loggerheads with our son's wife for 12 years ... we dont want to pass on any money to our son as his wife is will get hold of it and she is abusive and rules over everything and everybody. It would be our way of making sure the money goes to the Grandchild.

Your son is married to her, perhaps he doesn't find her abusive? Unintended consequences of your action could be immense. Perhaps tread carefully?

Go and speak to a solicitor. They are dealing with this sort of thing on a daily basis.

How do you think your proposed action would affect the relationship between your grandson and his parents?

welbeck - what a memory 👌

Obviously the parents won’t be the trustees then.

Its not a simple matter ... We have been at loggerheads with our son's wife for 12 years ... we dont want to pass on any money to our son as his wife is will get hold of it and she is abusive and rules over everything and everybody. It would be our way of making sure the money goes to the Grandchild.

I didn’t know about that welbeck, are you sure?

Speak to a solicitor. My feeling is that you can do this in England, but not under Scots law, and you certainly cannot do it in most European countries.

is this because they didn't want you to be in the hosp for the birth of GC ?

Have you told your son your plans ? ....I wouldn't want bad feeling after I had died.... and I have seen this many times

If your children are well provided for there is no reason to why not to leave money to GC but best left in trust until 25 when hopefully they will be responsible enough to spend it wisely.
That said it’s not critical, because if everyone agrees a will can be changed to pass it to GC or others, where the family is estranged in any way best just leave it up to your children to decide.

You can’t leave your money to whoever you wish in all countries, but in England and Wales you can. If your grandson is a minor your will would have to stipulate the age at which he receives it and appoint trustees to hold it until then. You need to get your will written by a solicitor and they will tell you it is advisable to place a note with your will explaining why you have disinherited your son; if your son is in any way financially dependent on you he may have grounds to contest the will if no provision has been made for him - court proceedings can quickly wipe out an estate..

I would suggest you think carefully about the possible consequences of a young person inheriting money before committing to this course of action. It can end badly. An alternative can be to leave it to trustees to be used for his benefit - eg education, house purchase etc. The solicitor will advise.

Hi

You need GSM for clarification but it would he helpful to leave a an expression of wishes in the form of a letter to show you have considered your son and have chosen to leave him out of your will. If you grandson is a minor then it may be you will need to set up a trust.

Please get a solicitor to make your will do not try a diy one.

Sorry I failed to mention my Grandson is not an adult yet ... I think this will change how I do it .. do I have to set up a trust ?

I think it helps if you write "To my son I leave nothing". I know someone who did this. Then it makes it hard for the son to contest the will.

You can leave your money to whoever you want to.

it partly depends on what country you are in.