Skipping a generation

Not sure why you would want to do this, but there may be very good reasons as you don’t say.

You just write it in you will don't you. No problem

GSM ?

You can leave your money as you wish its what comes after that causes the problems. Of course you may have a very good reason to miss out your son.

it partly depends on what country you are in.

You can leave your money to whoever you want to.

I think it helps if you write "To my son I leave nothing". I know someone who did this. Then it makes it hard for the son to contest the will.

Sorry I failed to mention my Grandson is not an adult yet ... I think this will change how I do it .. do I have to set up a trust ?

Hi

You need GSM for clarification but it would he helpful to leave a an expression of wishes in the form of a letter to show you have considered your son and have chosen to leave him out of your will. If you grandson is a minor then it may be you will need to set up a trust.

Please get a solicitor to make your will do not try a diy one.

You can’t leave your money to whoever you wish in all countries, but in England and Wales you can. If your grandson is a minor your will would have to stipulate the age at which he receives it and appoint trustees to hold it until then. You need to get your will written by a solicitor and they will tell you it is advisable to place a note with your will explaining why you have disinherited your son; if your son is in any way financially dependent on you he may have grounds to contest the will if no provision has been made for him - court proceedings can quickly wipe out an estate..

I would suggest you think carefully about the possible consequences of a young person inheriting money before committing to this course of action. It can end badly. An alternative can be to leave it to trustees to be used for his benefit - eg education, house purchase etc. The solicitor will advise.

If your children are well provided for there is no reason to why not to leave money to GC but best left in trust until 25 when hopefully they will be responsible enough to spend it wisely.
That said it’s not critical, because if everyone agrees a will can be changed to pass it to GC or others, where the family is estranged in any way best just leave it up to your children to decide.

Have you told your son your plans ? ....I wouldn't want bad feeling after I had died.... and I have seen this many times

is this because they didn't want you to be in the hosp for the birth of GC ?

Speak to a solicitor. My feeling is that you can do this in England, but not under Scots law, and you certainly cannot do it in most European countries.

I didn’t know about that welbeck, are you sure?

Its not a simple matter ... We have been at loggerheads with our son's wife for 12 years ... we dont want to pass on any money to our son as his wife is will get hold of it and she is abusive and rules over everything and everybody. It would be our way of making sure the money goes to the Grandchild.

Obviously the parents won’t be the trustees then.

welbeck - what a memory 👌

How do you think your proposed action would affect the relationship between your grandson and his parents?

Go and speak to a solicitor. They are dealing with this sort of thing on a daily basis.

Suzieque66

Its not a simple matter ... We have been at loggerheads with our son's wife for 12 years ... we dont want to pass on any money to our son as his wife is will get hold of it and she is abusive and rules over everything and everybody. It would be our way of making sure the money goes to the Grandchild.

Your son is married to her, perhaps he doesn't find her abusive? Unintended consequences of your action could be immense. Perhaps tread carefully?

I think this will cause terrible animosity, with the child in the middle of it. Hatred is not a good legacy to leave.

Oh dear this doesn’t bode well does it ? you could be leaving your grandson open to abuse
I d be very cautious about doing this

The child will at best be made to feel terribly guilty. The inheritance will be a burden and source of grief for him. Speak to a solicitor and put all your cards on the table.