What would you do? Do you think this is fair.

My mothers will is that the estate is split between myself and my two siblings . The GC aren’t mentioned as it’s assumed the money would then later filter down to them . My brother and myself have 2 kids each and my sister 1 child .
I think it’s appalling that your daughter is demanding that you change your will.
Also , I don’t know your age , but if you need care later on , that will whittle down your estate .

My 5 grandchildren will receive £10,000 each. There are reasons behind bequeathing the grandchildren.
Everything else is split between the 3 girls.

I have left almost 1/3 to each AC and just a small token amount to each of my grandchildren. That is the fairest way

I have 3AC and one does not have any children

Only my sons will benefit from my will, unless one/both die before me, when their children will receive what would have been their father’s share. My sons don’t both have the same number of children, but that’s tough, frankly.

Agree with the majority on here. I would split my estate equally between my children and leave "token" amounts, perhaps £1,000 each to the grandchildren. Your daughter is right, it isn't fair otherwise. Although she should arguably not be dictating what you do with your money.

I’d tell my daughter to butt out if she started tell me what she was entitled to after I die, quite honestly. It’s yours, and you must do what feels right to you.

I wouldn't discuss your will with your daughters.. it is entirely your choice who you leave your estate to.. However my mother left an equal amount to each of her GC and the rest was split between me and my siblings and this seemed very fair. We didn't know the content of her will and wouldn't have felt we needed to know.. we loved her regardless of what she would have left us.. Your daughter needs to consider your feelings and not be so entitled

I agree with GSM and my children will get equal shares. They can dole out cash to the grandchildren if they wish. I really think children who tell their parent(s) how to write their will have a damn cheek. It is entirely your choice. Best not to discuss with family. Just do what you think best.

You could leave an equal sum to each of your surviving GCs and the remainder to be shared equally by your DDs. Depending upon your DDs' circumstances, they can request that their share is distributed to their own children if they so wish.

A couple of my clients have done this - they are well over the IHT threshold and when the father or one of the died they passed their inheritance directly to their daughter.

The only way it could work out "fairly" is to calculate an amount for each daughter,and an amount for each individual child.

There may be an odd amount left, though.

I'd tell them I'm leaving them nothing in this casa and let them wait and see.! greedy or what

I agree that it is not appropriate for an adult child to be telling a parent how they should distribute their assets after they die. And as for being cross about it ..... hmmm.

The important thing is to name a percentage and not a number. DHs aunt said that all the god children should get x amount with the residue to DH. In the end, the god children received more than he did as she had spent most of her money.

I m just leaving a three way split to my children

Most of ours will be going to dds, split equally - one with 3 dcs, one with none. But smaller named amounts to the Gdcs. However we’ve also been putting money into S&S ISAs for the Gdcs, access only at 18.

I just hope they’ll have the sense not to splurge it all - I’ll be leaving letters for them in case I’m gone by then - pointing out that while they may like to treat themselves with some of it, it’s an awful lot easier to spend money than to earn and save it - and nice lump sums aren’t very likely to come their way again.

With Bluebelle and GSM. It's your decision.

If the daughters want to pass their shares on to the next generation, a will can be varied.

Germanshepherdsmum

Presumably your daughters might still have more children. Personally I would split the estate equally between the three daughters and leave them to pass on whatever they wish to their children - if anything. That is fair.

Yes, that is the only fair way.

Luckygirl3

I agree that it is not appropriate for an adult child to be telling a parent how they should distribute their assets after they die. And as for being cross about it ..... hmmm.

Yes!

I'd spend her share enjoying myself 😃

I would tell the middle daughter to keep her nose out. It's YOUR will and you'll distribute it how you like and she should be very grateful for anything she receives, no matter how big or small.

I can just imaging her sat in the solicitor's office leaning over your will after you've passed away like a pterodactyl picking the bones ...

Our will is an equal split between our children.

Cressida

Perhaps you could do as my mother did and leave each of your grandchildren a specific amount and the balance of your estate split equally between your daughters.

This is what we have done, one son has three children and the other son has no children. We have left the grandchildren a small sum and spoken to our son who has no children about it and he is fine with it. We were going to amend our will to leave a percentage of our estate to each of the grandchildren but our daughter-in-law has breast cancer and lymphedema and is unlikely to be able to work for the foreseeable future so we have told our other son that we are leaving it up to him what he gives his children, he is also fine with it.

When I made my will, I split the estate half and half between my two DSs who, I know, will, when the time comes, equitably share with their children. I rightly anticipated that there might be GGCs and, sure enough, my oldest GD is the mother of the most delightful toddler. Neither of my sons has made any objection and both have told me to go ahead and spend it!

Your money, your choice...me I'd do one of three things...1) split three ways between your daughters...2) leave the grandchildren a small legacy each then the rest equally between your daughters....3)split your whole estate equally between your daughters and grandchildren. I have a sister, step sister and step brother, my father and stepmother have left everything equally between the four of us, all of the grandchildren have been given some money now as their grandparents felt that they'd find it useful to have setting out in life...guess that could be option four! Again, your money, your choice...