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Meanest/ thriftiest thing you’ve ever heard of

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Daddima Fri 25-Jul-25 09:10:06

We were just talking about two unmarried sisters, friends of the Bodach’s mother who lived the most frugal life imaginable. Cornflake breakfast, can of soup lunch, and often ‘something eggy’ for dinner.
However, the length they went to to save money was incredible! They switched off the pilot light on their gas fire to save money, and had an electric cooker with those solid rings, as they could switch the ring off and let the residual heat finish the cooking!
You may not be surprised to hear they had one nephew, a ne’er do well fellow they rarely saw, who inherited a six figure sum.

Shinamae Fri 25-Jul-25 09:12:42

What is a Bodach?

Jane43 Fri 25-Jul-25 09:16:10

I worked with a girl who used to write every single thing she spent money on each day in a notebook. If she spent more than she felt she should she would debate ways in which she could recoup the money. Her husband had an exceptionally well paid job too.

kittylester Fri 25-Jul-25 09:25:16

I have a friend like that too. Fil always did it as did one of my bil. They all trained as accountants.

loopyloo Fri 25-Jul-25 09:27:53

My brother used to reuse his tea bags.

grannyqueenie Fri 25-Jul-25 09:33:59

So glad “my accountant” has never been like that Kitty. Nor like the husband of a friend, he used to read the meters before he went to work and again when he came home. She was at home all day with small children, while he was in the warmth of John Lewis, and she would be told off if she’d had the hearing on!! We lost touch but I gather they’re still together!!

Charleygirl5 Fri 25-Jul-25 09:35:09

When I was working I went on holiday with a now ex friend and each day one of us would pay for everything.

When it was her turn to pay, she resented me having a glass of wine with the evening meal, and I think she would have preferred that I had a sandwich.

It was different when I paid, she chose what she fancied from the menu. Amazingly it was one holiday only.

Boz Fri 25-Jul-25 09:36:56

I think some people really dislike spending money. Raised to be fearful of debt maybe. Then it becomes a mania not to spend.
I have known several women like that; two of them were very wealthy but would look down menus for the cheapest item to order; the cheapest hairdresser etc. which is why they were rich.
It was good for the inheritors, though.

Lathyrus3 Fri 25-Jul-25 09:39:37

My friend had a husband who would quickly blow out the candles on the birthday cake at the same time as the child, so that they could be reused the next year.

And the one after that………..

Boz Fri 25-Jul-25 09:42:23

Charleygirl5

When I was working I went on holiday with a now ex friend and each day one of us would pay for everything.

When it was her turn to pay, she resented me having a glass of wine with the evening meal, and I think she would have preferred that I had a sandwich.

It was different when I paid, she chose what she fancied from the menu. Amazingly it was one holiday only.

Yes. The double standards got you.
You cooked her steak; she cooked you boiled bacon.
She would grab your discarded nice clothes and never think of giving you a penny.
These people can be awful scroungers.

nanna8 Fri 25-Jul-25 09:43:43

Someone we used to go out to restaurants with used to collect everyone’s cash,including all the tips and then pay the exact amount owed on his credit card, pocketing the tips. A couple of us worked out what he was doing so after that we all paid separately. It really wasn’t worth it for him- he lost his reputation and the trust of the rest of us. He was, needless to say, the richest person in the group !

Magenta8 Fri 25-Jul-25 09:48:15

My in-laws used to unplug every electric appliance in the house, including the television and the cooker, before they went to bed, in case the appliances used up electricity overnight and sent the bill sky high.

My MIL criticised me for having expensive hair products which lasted me for months but she used to go to the hairdressers every single week.

RosieandherMaw Fri 25-Jul-25 09:48:51

There are some who, as they say, “Know the price of everything but the value of nothing”

kittylester Fri 25-Jul-25 09:52:50

Just what I was thinking Maw.

Kate1949 Fri 25-Jul-25 10:01:12

When I was a teenager, I had a friend whose mother used to wash sanitary towels and hang them out to dry! Someone else I knew had relatives who visited them from South Africa. They were given one cream cracker with a slice of cheese for their welcome tea.

Harris27 Fri 25-Jul-25 10:03:27

Definitely interesting this and I can recognise people I know from this article. My mil never worked a day past marriage had expensive clothes and hair done every week but criticised me for not being in a better paid job! At least I worked!

Witzend Fri 25-Jul-25 10:09:50

Dh’s old aunt (who had plenty of money) was notorious for loathing spending any of it. One thing that stands out is that she got her long-suffering cleaning lady to do her shopping (no extra pay) but would then moan like mad because she hadn’t gone to a different shop for the butter, where it was 1p cheaper.

I was with her just once in a wool shop where she was buying expensive Jaeger mohair. The bill came to £12 plus about 20p, and she argued for ages with the assistant, trying to get her to knock off the odd 20p. The assistant kept saying that it wasn’t her shop, so she couldn’t, so old Queen Midas (as I used to call her) finally had to give in. It was highly embarrassing.

Eventually she had to move to a care home (still mentally with it) but insisted that if the management knew she’d got money, they’d find a way to steal it. So dh had to pay her fees every month, and then get her to write a cheque to him, to repay him. And oh, how she absolutely hated writing those cheques!

whyDelilahwhy Fri 25-Jul-25 10:38:35

does anyone remember a tv programme probably bbc, YEARS ago now, interviewing people, couples, nutters
taking frugality to obsessiveness?
the one I particularly remember was a very self satisfied woman in Prenton, who made all the family clothes, collected bits of soap, melted and reformed them, etc., an extreme version of Little House on the Prairie without the charm and bonnets.
Ive just tried to find it but couldn’t.

This is a little different to being careful, prudent or parsimonious even,
then there is meanness, which is
irredeemable.
A malaise of the purse.

Allira Fri 25-Jul-25 10:49:19

loopyloo

My brother used to reuse his tea bags.

When we were camping years ago, I saw a line of tea bags pegged on the line, drying out to be re-used.
That was a Dutch family, perhaps tea was very expensive in The Netherlands!

Allira Fri 25-Jul-25 10:52:44

collected bits of soap, melted and reformed them
I read somewhere that Princess Diana used to do that. Perhaps the soap was extremely expensive!

crazyH Fri 25-Jul-25 10:54:25

Don’t mention ‘tips’ - the 2 friends who I went out to lunch with last afternoon, hate leaving tips - ‘oh I’ve got no change’ is the regular excuse. They are good friends but oh my gosh, sooooooo ‘tight’. I passed a hint - ‘at our age, what are we saving our pennies for ?’

shysal Fri 25-Jul-25 10:57:43

I remember visiting my grandmother in Yorkshire and seeing the teabags pegged on the line to dry before being re-used.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Fri 25-Jul-25 10:58:10

RosieandherMaw

There are some who, as they say, “Know the price of everything but the value of nothing”

Himself & I were saying those exact words about someone we know only just yesterday Maw.

What’s that saying - it takes a generation to save it and then a generation to spend it? 😁

My mum used to treat us all. She said she liked to see the smiles on our faces while she was still here. We do the same with our girls. It gives us great pleasure to be honest.

Cabbie21 Fri 25-Jul-25 11:14:40

My parents had very little money when I was growing up and frugality was necessary. “Make do and mend” was, I think, a wartime slogan, a mentality I was brought up with. It has made me careful with money, a saver not a spender. I am only just learning to treat myself occasionally. But some of the stories above are taking things too far, either out of sheer miserliness or excessive frugality.

ViceVersa Fri 25-Jul-25 11:23:06

loopyloo

My brother used to reuse his tea bags.

My aunt and uncle used to do the same - and they were pretty well-off.