How many years wed?

50th next year for us too. My DH always tells people there were two dreadful events that year. (He is a Scot!)

We usually have a 'bash' for our wider family, which numbers about 30, on occasions like that but this year for DH's birthday we are going away. Nowhere special but we think we've earned it! We don't make speeches EVER!

Assuming we don't keel over or fall out, we are due to celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary next year. (If I tell anyone we were married in 1966 they usually say - Oh, the year England won the World Cup)

We have never had parties on birthdays or anniversaries as neither of us likes
making speeches or being the centre of attention and so we were planning an exotic holiday instead.

Now we're wondering whether it would be a bit odd spending our golden anniversary in the company of strangers in some hotel and are thinking about having a small (family only) do at home. I've tried asking children for advice but they just say "do whatever you want".

If we are still around and together (which we hope to be), what do you think should we do?

Daffydil, we have 3 offspring too, 9 GC;and two super GGS,
and like you had some good times ; but its the continual drag, pleading, shouting (now we are deaf), lol and too many disagreements !!! Does not help my health problems!

Daffydil are you aware that on your 60th , you can apply to be invited to Buckingham place for tea with the queen on her lawns ? Debating ..shall I shan't I ... Would be rather nice ? Would I be a hypocrite seeing most days I wanting a divorce !!

50 years next year.

We've been married almost 45 years and might have separated had we been able to work out who had to have the children!!

Actually, I feel the same as GA.

Next year we'll celebrate our 30th anniversary - and I love the Wonderful Man just as much now as on the day we married; probably more in fact as we've grown and matured together. He's kind, thoughtful, generous - and untidy enough that he stays just the right side of being a human rather than Superman.

P.S. I have just re-read Greatmum's piece and the thing is that our generation of women did not walk out on a marriage. For a start they had very few rights and were completely dependent on their husbands and this was why I became involved with the Women's Movement in the 60s. I can't generalise on whether sticking it out was a good thing or not but I do know that today's generation of women would not have accepted it.

This August will be our 58th wedding anniversary - I can hardly believe it myself. There have been the usual good and not so good times and some occasions when I felt that if I had had somewhere to take three children I would have walked out but we got through all that and with a bit of luck I shall be coming on to Gransnet in 2 years time to report on our Diamond Wedding Anniversary. Lots of
Anyway visit from DDG and gorgeous great grandson this morning.

44 years in August. We rub along OK I reckon. I sometimes wonder how he puts up with me. But then I remember that I have to put up with him so we're quits . (OK, not original - I read that somewhere recently, and read it out to DH and we both laughed in recognition!)

52 next month, and he`s STILL getting on my nerves! Reason for staying? Similar to Greatmum. Now and again he does something that makes me think maybe I`m wrong, but it doesn`t last for long.

57 years in August, we have celebrated each milestone but if we reach 60, Alzheimer's will more than likely rob us of a celebration for that. Well done to all though, our life together has been good.

49 years in July, though, having just spent a week away together we might not last that long.
No court in the land would convict me!

Too long helps

We have been married for 45 years in August. We lived together for about 2 years before that. I find it impossible to imagine that we have been together so long - it has gone by in a flash.

We celebrated our silver with a wonderful ceilidh in a village hall; and our ruby with lots of friends - a walk through the woods and fields in a stately home, then lunch in their barn, with a classical guitarist playing in the background. The children organised a cake with an icing top that had one of our wedding photos printed on it; and they had had an artist come to our house while we were on holiday and paint a picture of the view from our house. A brilliant day!

7 years to first DH (wine, women and song), been with DH2 for 38 years and married for 35 of them. DM was very disapproving as we 'lived in sin' for 3 years! She came round after the nuptials. It was the 70's.

Bez your marital status almost mirrors my own including the demise of number 1 from alcohol and 20yrs married to number 2.. thats where the similarity stops sadly , OH is not a DIYER by any stretch of the imagination.. what a lovely surprise a walk in wardrobe would be , enjoy!!

I was twenty years married to number 1 - his drinking brought it to an end then and he died three years later and this year will have been married to OH for twenty. Spent most of our married life retired - took early retirement - he always is busy with something. When I was back in UK couple of weeks ago bisiting DD - I came home to discover he had built a floor across our barn to make me a walk in wardrobe - it will be accessed from our bedroom. He said he needed a project!!

We celebrated 40yrs this April. A few hiccoughs but 98 % bliss

First one I hung on also for 10 years. I'm heading to my 30th with my DH.

19 yrs with number 1 although I hung on 10yrs longer than I should of till my youngest was 14 then met number 2 and we will celebrate 20 happiest years on July 1st.

22 years servitude (literally) with number 1.
17 years of joy with number 2.... 10 years married.
Both now retired happily.

44 years on 29th of May last.

Married 23 October 1971 so 44 years in the Autumn.

There was a lot of tut tutting in the family when I got engaged. No engagement party just a lot of disapproving faces.

Almost 44 years later we are still happily (most of the time) together - SO THERE !