How many years wed?

Married 63 years!

OK so it looks like we lasted longest so far, wedd when I was 19 yrs and 20yrs ( just one day after) we sort of agreed to get married, nothing romantic!
It's nearly 60 yrs, was 58 yrs in march 1st,
But its been an up and often down life ! Three lovely kids who have given us 5 lovely grand kids, the youngest of whom is 28 yrs, eldest g/kids have provided 2 great grandsons, with I hope a g/grand daughter to be born in Nov:
I was always full of energy and tackled anything in home, dh never knew what to expect on arriving home from work...furniture moved room to room, redecorated ! Unfortunately he did not share this , rarely did anything, and even that done..was never 'finished'. Celebrated 25 the anniversary, because it was the done thing, had family gathering. But there after there didn't seem much point !
We had more rows than loving, when my youngest was about 3yrs, dh forgot how to say I love you !
Things grew cold between us , though as a family I fought to keep a happy home.
On our fiftieth wedd, I was so sick of missing out on celebrations, so I went ahead and arranged a big party, not that it made any difference to dh, nor our life together.
So why am I still here in it, I hear you ask? Money, and no place to run too!
When I went to write my will, I was told I could not leave my half the house in money to my gchildren, if I died first! This felt like the last straw, my father gave us deposit on our home, which had been my uncles home, so we brought it cheap! Then later my dad brought us a lovely car!
Neither the home nor the car was looked after by dh, he has been so lazy!!! I also worked to furnish home, putting into it all my wages! How worthless am I ??

50 years together and 47 years wed - where did all those years go ?

50 years for us! I was 21 and OH 23. You have hit the nail on the head 'number', mine too drives me quite potty, but I wouldn't be without him.

It`s nearly 51 years now, and he`s still driving me doolally!

Gosh, this is a thread that has lasted the course! Nearly three years old and still reappearing. Not a bad thing at all, I hasten to add.

48 Years
well thats grand
do you remenber the first time he held your hand

Do you remember the very first day
when your handsom young man walked your way

If you do well thats great
It indicates the loves the same as your first date

As everyone else has done I wish you all the best, you are a very lucky lady.

and to all those celebrating anniversaries today. We're 44 years and counting. I think that having jobs that meant we spent short periods apart quite frequently was probably A Good Thing...

Its our 65th wedding anniversary in September and yes we are going to have a nice "DO" in a local hotel.
Hubby has short term Dementia now so its hard work looking after him but having said that he has been a great hubby and a very good dad so its my turn now to care for him. It gets a bit nerve shattering at times but I have a big WW2 website and when he is resting or gone to bed I like to catch upon my e-mails and wind down a bit.
I have written poem books and was surprised when I found out that one book had been read over the local radio and this poem brought many responses from whoever picked up the programme.

The Marital Bed
For Gawds sake move over and let me get in
Its not very warm and my nightie’s quite thin
Panting and pushing to get him over the line
I only want half the bed the part I call mine.

I’m just dozing off to sleep when my calves go in a clamp
I jump out very quickly because I have the ruddy cramp
I can hear my other half snoring well in the ‘land of nod’
While I’m limping up and down thinking ‘you are a lucky sod’.

The cramp is slowly subsiding so I try my luck once again
More pushing shoving and heaving he really is a pain.
I close my eyes and let my mind drift like a rowing boat
When suddenly I’m choking with an elbow in my throat.

After being rudely awakened I settle down once more
Oh strewth! its started up again that never ending snore.
I bury my head in the pillow with the cover over my head
I’ve had this nightly torture since the first day that we wed.

I give him a dig to make him stop and turn the other way
Oh blow me down! here we go! he’s taken the whole duvet.
I pull it back with very much force, I have to be quite tough
So he turns over with it and puts his knees right up my duff.

I settle down once more to sleep the rest of the night through
When suddenly the bedclothes go back he has to visit the loo.
I turn to look at the clock, the hands say half past three
“Oh Lord!” I pray “let me get some rest, please be good to me”.

My other half gets back into bed shaking me back to life
I think I deserve a medal for being an understanding wife.
I hear the clock chime four o’clock I guess God never heard
I may as well get out of bed and do yesterdays crossword

Copyright © - Maisie Walker 2001 - All rights reserved

It's 55 for us, after a blind date. children and lovely grandchildren and usual up and downs. I think keeping your own identity after retirement is a challenge, sometimes I have to ask how he thinks I was allowed sole charge of 30+ children each year for 40 years. I saw a link here on GN a poem of Pam Ayres called something like "They should have asked my husband/ He'd be sure to know" It makes me smile anyway. I'm glad I can't see a thread showing what they think of us.

43 years for us we met and married within about twelve weeks of meeting. I was twenty he was 19 , we met with a lot of disapproval from parents etc they said it wouldn't last. Well we proved them wrong hasn't always been easy and now we are entering the world of retirement it has provided us with another difficulty to over come. But we keep on keeping on.

44 years together, and 43 married on 29th May.

ours 50yrs+ three great kids-grown now with 9 gc, and 1 gt g son; married at 19 , many ups and downs; retired life not good--dh is lazy, work as in maintenance of home ignored! house damp, falling down.... anyone got a spare room ? kids make life worthwhile.

47 this year! And never a cross word........."still crazy after all these years" as simon and garfunkle say!!

44 years for me too Jeanie and thanks for reminding me - I actually had forgotten it's our anniversary at the end of this month!

44 yrs, just tell me who did I murder it's so long ago I cant remember, I'm still waiting for the sentence to finish.

That's sad Sook.

Enjoy your celebrations number, when they happen.

44 for us in October Soutra. We hadn't known each other very long but it doesn't seemed to have been a mistake - yet.

Sorry for the typing errors it's been a long day. Goodnight

OG and I will celebrate our 39th anniversary this year . We had our first date in Feb 1969, he was late, still is..... for everything, but on our wedding day I kept him waiting for 25 minutes . We had 18 months of normal married life before he suffered renal failure, his health has always be fragile. I have to be honest and say that with hindsight I would have run a mile and left him at the altar. But as my mother always said "You make your be and then you lie in it"

I'm glad you enjoyed your anniversary Nonu

It`ll be 51 for us in July, and we`re still waiting to go out to celebrate the 50th, thanks to hospital stays!

43 for us too - 44 in July. I'll be honest and say we were far too young having graduated 3 weeks previously but in 1970 the only way to live together was to get married and we haven't made such a bad job of it.

Congratulations to all . I had eight years , wanted so many more but would not swap those precious years with him for 46 years with anyone else .

Eight years with my husband , forty six years with his mother !

many thanks to all who sent Anniversary Wishes ! We had a lovely day and evening , several flutes of the old champers !!!

RIVER How on earth did you know ??? {wink]

[cupcakes] s to all .
x

Well done Nonu - you must have been a child-bride!

Congratulations numberplease and all others working at their relationships, however many it's been ;)
We've been married 40 years last September 1st. I was married just a week after I was 20 - I'd have been horrified if our DDs had done the same! We've had our difficulties - I'm not easy to live with - and we've survived a lot, including bringing up our much-loved DDs, one of whom was born with a rare genetic syndrome. We're now a couple of Old Gits - we do some things together (days out to National Trust places, gardens, bird reserves, theatres etc) but I have my own friends and interests separately too. I lost my mum to cancer back in '86 so their marriage didn't last beyond 35 years because of that, but my in-laws were married 61 years before my FIL died and I'm hoping we can at least equal that!