Where is Anya

It’s funny isn’t it, how you begin to get a feel for some of the other Gransnetters, those you are sure you’d get along with, those who are so empathetic, those who actually you think you’d rather not meet .
It does make it difficult to make any kind of relationship, albeit online, if users change their username.

The very first time I posted was when I jumped in with both feet to defend someone who was being 'picked on' and she pm'd me to say thank you.
Very brave of you pollyperkins, well done.
I have done that a few times and had my knuckles severely rapped as a consequence - but I will carry on!

Yes, I would prefer not to have to respond to the nit-picking, rather unhelpful imo.

Shame it is not as it was at the beginning but being on here has taught me that people will say things on a forum they wouldn't say face to face. Maybe those with less than satisfactory lives take it out on others in the virtual world.

I think it is great when people disagree and have reasonable 'conversations' about their differences, I did that with Anya without either of us feeling got at. Unfortunately there are people on gn who can be most unpleasant towards those with a different viewpoint and some who twist what has been said and deliberately misconstrue others' posts. I have been the recipient of such posts and when correcting what I actually said have had no apology. This has led me to decide not to post on some threads where certain people have been 'robust'.

Nit-picking aside, I take your point and that of polly but we're coming at this from different angles. Polly quite rightly says that she was aware of the bullying accusations when she joined 3 years ago and I wouldn't contradict that.
However, when I joined G N in its original incarnation that simply wasn't the case.
Ergo we're all justified in saying what we did!!

Sorry you didn't understand mcem Imo 'a long time' made it quite clear and did not in any way imply I had been a member from the beginning. Had I been here from the beginning it would have been a simple matter to say so. 'Always' was correct in the full context.

I've been on GN fot 3 years and right from the start noticed occasional bullying and unpleasantness where people seemed to gang up on someone for no reason. The very first time I posted was when I jumped in with both feet to defend someone who was being 'picked on' and she pm'd me to say thank you.
I can't see that it's changed much. This still happens from time to time and it can get unpleasant especially on political threads. I think as we are all anonymous people have a tendency to criticise and attack others which they wouldn't do in RL (I hope.) But people's feelings can still be hurt.
However most threads are friendly and supportive and I enjoy the chats and humour.

Was Anya the one who played the piano?
I get mixed up withall the names beginning with 'A'.

Sorry nonnie but the use of the word always did rather imply that you were discussing GN from its inception.
Perhaps 'since I joined GN' might have been clearer.

At the outset there simply weren't the accusations of bullying and cliques that we saw later.

I always liked reading Anya’s comments. She was amusing and knowledgable (but not in a “know all” kind of way). There is a newish poster with a similar style that I think maybe her but I’m not a regular so will never know for sure.

mcem Please re-read my post. I didn't say anything about the'earliest days'. I was talking about when I joined, I couldn't comment on what happened before then.

One of the things which causes friction is when people 'interpret' other people's posts and imply they have said something they haven't. mcem's post looks life a misunderstanding of what I wrote, not a deliberate mis-reading but there are posters who imply, or even outrightly, state things which were not in the post and are not true. I was once accused of working for a company I have never had a relationship with because I said something one of the political types didn't agree with. I refused to take the bait and simply stopped posting on that thread. It began to feel like that person had a grudge against me because every time I said something which didn't accord with their views they responded rudely. I know I was not alone but I decided to walk away from posts by that person.

Seriously nonnie I do not recall any such accusations in the earliest days of GN.
People could agree or disagree without being seen as members of a gang (or in one case - a coven).

I have been a member for a long time and can assure you there have always been suggestions of cliques and bullying. It is not as bad as it was! When I joined and mentioned bullying I was told that it it was too hot I should get out of the kitchen. I don't think anyone takes that attitude now. I wasn't even suggesting it was I who had been bullied!

Some of us pop in and out as other aspects of our lives allow. We don't get involved with all threads and I never post that I don't know anything about a subject as that is pointless imo. I recently mentioned someone who had died and someone's entire post was 'never heard of her'. I just don't bother to post if I have nothing useful to say.

When you have been away a few months it is hard to contribute on the threads which are already long unless you feel it is unnecessary to read all that has been said which I always feel is a bit dismissive of previous posters. Yes, I have on rare occasions felt I could make a useful contribution but not had time to read it all but I have made that clear in my post.

I can think of many reasons why a person would leave or go away for a while. I don't find it helpful to speculate about them.

And the mobility scooter thread

I admit I was never a fan of jingl but agree that she was badly treated and that GNHQ didn't handle things well. There should be room for everyone.

I'm not sure that j 's banishment is what led to the changes in GN.
The privacy issues around FB and Daily Mail were very significant leading to the withdrawal of so many profiles and loss of posters.
Some found the politics threads too hot to handle with the result that feisty posters opted out.
Petty accusations of bullying and cliques soured things.

End result is that we have a different GN which still serves a useful purpose but lacks much of the humour, warmth and camaraderie we enjoyed.

I too would like to know how things are with missadventure and several others.
(By the way Galen has been posting quite recently in the kitchen.)

Come to that where is Galen these days?

The one I miss most is MissAdventure - and I feel quite concerned because of her RL situation.

Maw

Seem to remember that Jbf popped her head round the door on her birthday (and my DH birthday) last year.

They are already.

No please don't lets go into Saint Jings banishment again, all the acolytes will be out in force.

And don’t tell them your name, Pike!

Don’t encourage them jenpax.

All of this must have happened before I joined GN please enlighten us who were not on then what the issue was and what happened?

In a previous thread I think it was Galen who explained what happened to Jings. Something like just pushing things too far for GNHQ.

Whoops! I'm agreeing with: Today 08:31 kittylester