Be kind

I am pleased someone has commented on name changes.
There is one poster who is being very argumentative but also very sarcastic and a couple of days ago another poster remarked that she hadn’t changed her style with her new name.
I hadn’t and still haven’t recognised her style but it is quite strange to name change just to go on posting the same views.
Stick to your principles.

Well the political threads on Brexit and the general election were a real battleground and not for the faint hearted! That has calmed down for the time being and some of the more vociferous posters appear to have changed their names to avoid being identified once the dust settled. Unless you have armour plating best to keep off the political threads, there are some strong feelings there.
But don't leave annsixty because all ages are needed, just find more gentle threads. There are plenty of them and people are much kinder when the subject does not bring up strong feelings!

Please don’t even think about leaving Annsixty. I like your posts they are often full of common sense.

I did a mean post this morning about the size of Meghan’s nose (pre cosmetic surgery). I honestly don’t know why I was horrid. I rightly got called out on it. I’ve apologised.

We are not saints. I daresay just about all of us are nice and kind in real life! Occasionally we are not our best selves. It happens.
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Thank you all, you are very kind.

There is a saying 'Be kind. Everyone you meet is struggling with something.'

Ann, please don’t leave gransnet?As others have said you make a valuable contribution to the threads.x

Totally agree. People tend to forget the things they are teaching their children

Another one saying do not leave Annsixty you are a valuable and trusted member here

I have sometimes joined in on threads but confess I steer clear of things that might be controversial because of the unkind responses I have read. I feel we are all entitled to our point of view and as long as stating it politely and kindly, entitled to share it without having to worry that it might upset or offend.

Annsixty please do not leave GN, you have been a very good virtual friend to me and lots of others

I agree with MawB. Don't leave annsixty!
Every now and again a new poster comes on and says we should all be nice. This is usually met with 'we're not Pollyanna' type responses. The forum is for all and not everyone is nice in real life nor can everyone be expected to be in digital life. Some people have strong feelings about certain topics. Just avoid the politics threads and you should be OK.

Please don't leave ann you play a valuable part on these forums.

I tend to back off from threads where people are voicing strong opinions, being the coward that I am, but I do enjoy the gentle threads like Good Morning and Soop's Kitchen.

There is something for everyone on here, you just have to find your niche.

No way * annsixty* - don’t even think about it. You are not unkind and nor are you too old or too anything else!

I don't mind the blatant opinionated people, it's the passive aggressive double meaning people that irk me with their comments that you are mad if you take it the "wrong way"

To be absolutely honest I had forgotten that I took part in that thread and having checked it out I plead guilty to posting unkindly.
I am seriously thinking of leaving GN, I feel I am far too old and far too sensitive to deal with certain new posters who don’t want to just state their views without unkindness or sarcasm.

MawB Wed 15-Jan-20 09:18:19
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Thanks bluebells, yes you're right, the thread was about saving plans for grandchildren so was caught out actually!! Haha x

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While not disagreeing with the sentiment, why is this on “Savings accounts ” and “Meet-ups” ?

I did wonder that too Auntieflo

Maybe I am another one of the Thread Police, but why is your post under "Meet Ups/ Where are You?"
I am nice in real life!

Suc h a goodmessage jo61 I agree completely. I just want to see help and encouragement on here.

I agree with janeinsworth . In fact I saw the thread in question, and saw it as a difference of opinion, nothing nasty or unkind at all.

jo61 Just a word of caution.
it’s not really a good idea to join a forum and start lecturing the existing members on how to behave.
You’ll be instantly marked out as one of the dreaded ‘thread police’.
In fact most posters on Gransnet are kind people and don’t need you to tell them how to phrase their posts.

Haha that's right, I loved watching it when my girls were young.
Well we can use constructive comments without being destructive!! On that note I'm off to work. Thanks for all your comments

I think it was Thumpers mom who said that and I am with you and her 100%.
People these days seem to look for the bad and not the good in others very sad.

I agree, just because you disagree with someone, doesn’t mean you can’t be kind.

But I sometimes find myself wondering if some people are for real, and how they ever get through life with their self pity, and failure to ever see they are ever at fault.

It’s a strange situation, because you would be unlikely to ever meet half the people you’re chatting with, and if you did meet them, you probably wouldn’t like them, or they you.

Thanks bluebells, yes you're right, the thread was about saving plans for grandchildren so was caught out actually!! Haha x