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Happiness

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Tingleydancer Mon 13-Mar-17 09:40:49

It does sound as if you have mild depression. You do need to take care of yourself and if your low mood increases see your GP. Exercise and the outdoors can help; what about joining a walking group? Also make sure you have a good diet and perhaps a vitamin supplement. There is joy in life after 60 but you need to optimise your situation so that you can find it! Sometimes anti depressants can help too.

Grannybags Mon 13-Mar-17 09:38:32

I agree with all the comments so far. I try and walk every day, and tell myself off when I try and convince myself that those little niggles are far too bad to walk with! I feel so much better by the time I get home, even if the weather hasn't been too good. I wish you all the best flowers

radicalnan Mon 13-Mar-17 09:30:56

Dysthymia is very debilitating............depression that just sucks the joy out of life. I agree with everyone else exercise, fresh air, nature, if you don't do sporty type things then I find the garden is an answer. Gets you out of the house.

Just a walk a day ............

I have just had so many sad things happen to me that lack of joy is my default setting....and dips from time to time into something very much worse...........look after yourself.

bettyboo22 Mon 13-Mar-17 09:29:41

Hi get a dog really does help it will get you out walking meeting people I to am going through menopause and all the crap that goes with it hot flushes sex drive What sex drive that's gone and general lows but I've got my dogs and they keep me happy Good Luck smile

annsixty Mon 13-Mar-17 09:23:32

Only much sympathy from me as I have the same feelings BUT I am nearly 80 and have much sadness in my life. So give yourself a good talking to, count your blessings, try to see the GC more, that is always good for me, and get out more and make your own good times.

Teetime Mon 13-Mar-17 08:42:55

Yes I agree as well. I'm off to golf this morning (I don't suggest this is for everyone) and I don't want to go as I am feeling much as you do at the moment Loobs but I know I will feel better as I do it and certainly the feeling of achievement is a nice moderate high. So get out those running shoes and off you go. flowers

PRINTMISS Mon 13-Mar-17 08:33:22

I agree with Jane10 the fresh air does a lot of good, have a look at nature, the lovely flowers that are just making their presence known, and just for a moment, think how lucky you are to be able to do that.

Jane10 Mon 13-Mar-17 07:42:38

Sounds a bit like a low level depression. Get out there for some walks in the fresh air. There's evidence that being out in 'nature' can have a positive effect on mood.
Otherwise, try not to ruminate. Easier said than done I know. Happiness is a funny thing -in can creep up on you while you're busy doing something else! Contentment is more easily maintained.

Loobs Mon 13-Mar-17 06:56:11

I was lying in bed this morning thinking about life in general (as you do) and I realised that I have never felt truly happy since the menopause. I am aware that there is so much sadness and suffering in the World and that I have a good life in comparison - 2 lovely daughters, 4 gorgeous grandchildren and yet! It's as though a portion of happiness has been removed, almost as though my joy of life has lost the top layer?? I am nearly 61 and can say that I haven't felt that true, joyous happiness since my mid 50's, which was when I started the menopause as well as becoming Hypothyroid and anemic. I have both those things under control so why am I not fully joyful?? I am not depressed, reasonably healthy but I just don't seem able to feel complete contentment/happiness/joy. I am aware that pre the menopause I had more feelings, it is as though I have been de-sensitised to life? So, is it just me or do others suffer from this - any ideas how to get my mojo back?? I have thought about taking up running - I used to walk 5 miles every morning before breakfast but that has fallen by the wayside (there is always an ache somewhere to give me an excuse not to) - is it that simple though, can exercise make that much difference?? I take supplements, tried |HRT which didn't help - surely the rest of my life won't be this continual 90%?