Menopause symptoms

@Welshgirl21. Are you feeling any better today?
I hope knowing that so many woman suffer, and lots of us have found a solution, has helped you feel a little less isolated.

Please let us know how you are.

@Menopauselbitch. I almost spat out my tea when I read your comment. Bet your doctor is scared of you! ???

Seriously - why are women putting up with male doctors refusing them HRT? Would you take your car to a mechanic who can't drive? I have a lovely male doctor at my GP surgery - however if its anything to do with periods, contraception and HRT I see a nice female GP instead. I am 50 and in peri menopause - she said I can stay on the mini pill until at least 55 and then we will see about HRT. Stand up for yourselves ladies - because nobody else will!

Alioop
How fuvking dare your doctor refuse you HRT. go back to him and demand it.

Acupuncture really helped my aches and pains and now at 59 I’m pretty much pain free.

Good diet low in meat and processed foods is a big help. And recently discovered making a hot oat milk with maca and cocoa really helps you to sleep.

Only my mum really understood what I was going through no man can possibly understand ? it’s a terrible time.

@Summerfly. So glad that Vagifem is working for you.

May I ask where you got the idea that no oestrogen enters the bloodstream from vagifem? When you use patches and gels the oestrogen is absorbed through the skin. With Vagifem you are inserting the oestrogen into your vagina which is rather like the inside of your mouth. It is impossible to prevent the oestrogen being absorbed into your body though it is said to be in smaller amounts than patches.

Welshgirl21 Do hope you are feeling supported by many of the comments on here and knowing you are not alone. I have battled with anxiety and insomnia as well as flushes. Took HRT eventually, delayed due to family history and it has helped, but not out of the woods yet. Keep talking to us on here. Sending you flowers ?

Hi ,I was in Asda today and noticed a magazine called 'menopause' it seemed to have some really interesting articles in it, I too cut out all caffeine, that does help a little, hope you find something that helps you ? xx

I'm not sure if it's a menopausal symptom, but my patience for misogyny is zero! I feel more like an empowered woman today than I did before menopause!

For those of you who suffer with vaginal dryness I suggest you go to your GP. I’ve suffered with it for years until I decided to ask for help. I tried all the over the counter remedies but had no luck there. My GP (a woman) was very understanding and has given me Vagifem. It’s amazing and because it’s inserted directly into the vagina there’s no oestrogen entering the bloodstream. It’s been a Godsend for me!

Apologies Esspee, I meant to type endlessstrife - it was in reference to her earlier comment about how the menopause is supposed to happen

As I had a hysterectomy aged 31 due to cancer in Situ of the cervix, I did not get any real menopause symptoms until I hit 50! Then it was lack of sleep and hot nigh5 sweats that made me realise I had to do something. HRT was wonderful for me and I felt really well on it. Unfortunately, I suffered a pulmonary embolism whilst on holiday in Australia so had to come off all medications whilst they sorted me out!!
Now aged 69, I have rare hot nights but sleep patterns are never good but I can catch up during the day if possible. My advice is that you do nit have to suffer or carry on regardless. See if your surgery/ clinic offers a menopause group. If not, ask for one to be established. Never be a martyr to the menopause. We are all different and cope in different ways. Some recommend black cohosh but it wasn’t for me. Talk to your GP and explain your issues. They are better trained to deal with this nowadays.
Good luck

@SirChenjin. I disagree that menopause is supposed to happen. I would be more likely to argue that women are not designed to live as long as we now do.
Interestingly enough men who have low testosterone have no trouble getting their HRT prescribed by GPs.

I did not originally say that the menopause was a DISABILITY @endlessstrife. I used that term after you did.
I said that it was a DEFICIENCY just as diabetes is caused by a deficiency of insulin, and should be treated as such. It is indeed the body going wrong in that it no longer produces an essential hormone which is simple to replace given the current state of medical knowledge.
I believe what @notanan was getting at was that, thanks to medical science, we now have the ability to correct medical problems which in the past we had no way of doing. We don’t think of telling someone in need of antibiotics that they shouldn’t have them because it is “not natural”.

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Menopause is certainly supposed to happen Esspee but that doesn’t mean women should simply put up with it. We’re at the mercy of GPS who may or may not be aware of the best treatment and there’s a shortage of certain types of HRT - and patches are impossible to get. Can you imagine if this was any other condition? There would be an outcry - but because it’s ‘just’ the menopause it’s no big deal, even though many women suffer terribly from the debilitating symptoms.

I am 56 started the menopause beginning of last year you name it I had it. Was referred to the menopause clinic up the hospital. Been on hrt jel for nearly 4 months. Now I feel great like a new women.

Bleeding to death, cancer, broken bones are not natural! I don’t understand this statement at all.

Esspee, I don’t disagree about the menopause being a disability. I haven’t exactly sailed through it myself. It’s just not in the same vein as conditions such as diabetes and hypo/ hyperthyroidism, which is the body going wrong. HRT doesn’t work for everyone, but insulin and thyroxine, or surgery if it’s hyper, do. Menopause is supposed to happen, it is not the body failing.

An under active thyroid gland and diabetes are disabilities and need fixing. The menopause is completely natural, as was going in to puberty.

Bleeding to death is natural. Cancer is natural. Broken bones are natural.

Doesnt mean we have to tolerate them..

@endlessstrife. I assure you that the menopause is a huge disability for many of us who have survived to middle age. In days gone by we would be dead before our ovaries gave up the ghost.
My consultant told me that the NHS would save money if everyone for whom it was suitable went on HRT. Just think of the cost of all those falls and hip replacements due to crumbling bones for example.

Welshgirl, sorry to hear you’re struggling and feel alone. I felt similarly 21 years ago when my symptoms started. I thought I was going mad because at 40, it hadn’t occurred to me that I was menopausal

However, after many years, much trial and error and a fortune spent (wasn’t keen on the idea of HRT as I wanted to keep it as natural as possible), I’ve settled on Progon and Phyto B, both by Bezwecken. For me they were lifesavers and I’m now largely symptom free. Hot flushes sometimes break through and I’m about 10lbs heavier than I’d like to be but other than that I’m mostly fine

An under active thyroid gland and diabetes are disabilities and need fixing. The menopause is completely natural, as was going in to puberty.

@SirChenjin. ? for you.
I know I would be distraught in your situation but remember that you have had the protective benefits of HRT for however long you have been on it. Surely better than never having tried it.
I hope you are advised to wean yourself off gradually and it all goes smoothly for you.

P.S. I thought you were a man. Don’t they have life easy! Next time I intend to come back as one (or perhaps as a tree?).

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