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Stupid senior moment ? brain like thick fog

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Corryanna Tue 11-May-21 23:27:04

I’ve had my hair cut once in 14 months. I’m so rubbish at making decisions right now and my usual, great hairdresser has moved away I can’t decide whether to stay local for my next, very much needed trim or splash out and try somewhere much more expensive, need to drive there and will stress about car being locked, brake on and parking meter paid. All my friends go to the local perm+rollers place or one with a male stylist. On top of this argument going on in my head, I cut my fringe this morning and I’m too embarrassed to go for at least 6 weeks. My brain never used to be mush like this, does anyone else find their menopause makes them feel like this?

Shinamae Tue 11-May-21 23:30:40

Another mash rain here perhaps we should start a club

Corryanna Tue 11-May-21 23:31:44

Ps
Male stylist is very loud, opinionated and the opposite of what I want in a hairdresser.
The perm+rollers place is 2nd local hairdresser, lovely but not for me.
Apologies for disjointed message x

Shinamae Tue 11-May-21 23:32:03

Mush mash whatever... still need a club with a fine big clubhouse!!

FarNorth Wed 12-May-21 00:14:06

I did find that, but it improved again after a while.
Lockdown hasn't helped, tho.

Nonogran Wed 12-May-21 07:53:24

My daughter used the advice of a qualified Nutritionist to sort out a diet to help with brain fog. Found a practitioner locally via Mr Google.
First thing she did was take gluten out of her diet. Works for her, plus cutting down on sugar.
I have tried more expensive hairdressers in the city. Paid mega bucks for nothing different & had the hassle of travel on bus or car. Parking's a pain! I ended up back at my local place but changed stylist. Worked well for me.
If you're shy about changing stylist just find out when your usual has her days off & book A N Other on the premise that it's more convenient for you and your schedule to see someone else that particular day.

Esspee Wed 12-May-21 08:46:53

You can opt out of the menopause by replacing the depleted hormones Corryanna.
That will put paid to all the talked about symptoms (brain fog, hot flushes etc.) and the life crippling long term ones which nobody warns you about. (osteoporosis, vaginal atrophy, osteoarthritis, sleep problems etc.).
As for hairdressers, I would always try local ones first. Paying more doesn’t guarantee a better cut. Why not ask around for recommendations?

Puzzled Tue 08-Jun-21 10:00:58

At the top of the stairs we have a small picture frame
Inside it says
"To my deafness, I'm accustomed,
To my dentures, I'm resigned,
I can manage my bi-focals,
But Oh! HOW I miss my mind"

HOW TRUE!

Can't remember where we got it

NotSpaghetti Tue 08-Jun-21 10:07:15

Is there a good local mobile service?

dragonfly46 Tue 08-Jun-21 10:17:52

I tried lots of local hairdressers until I found the right one. The one I have now shaved my hair free when I was losing it and has now cut it so that I feel a million dollars even though it is now straight and fine!
Take your time and try them all until you find one. Try local at first moving outwards.

Talullah Tue 08-Jun-21 10:20:21

I'm very mushy. And I have this nonsensical worry about how I'm getting somewhere, what should I wear, how long will it take. Do I really want to go. It's endless. Of course after the event I look back and realise I had nothing to stress about but that doesn't help.

SophieLees44 Thu 24-Jun-21 11:51:12

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LucyLocket55 Thu 24-Jun-21 13:11:17

Brain fog was a real problem for me during menopause, I kept on trying to push it back by raising my eyebrows. It was like a woolly hat on my head. It did slowly go away but I don’t know how I managed to keep my job as I just couldn’t think.

I remember trying to go Christmas shopping, getting to to doors of a department store and thinking I didn’t know why I was there and what I was buying, despite having a list.

ElderlyPerson Thu 24-Jun-21 13:58:22

I saw once on television something about an elderly lady going to the hairdresser and she was being interviewed while there.

Over in the waiting area a man, about 35, sat reading a magazine.

She explained that he was a taxi driver and she had arranged that he would drive her there, escort her to the salon, wait inside, escort her back to the car, drive her home and see that she got back into her home safely.

It all got suspended since COVID, but previously the volunteer centres used to do that for people who could not use public transport and needed to go to the dentist or more or less anywhere really. Those who could afford to pay paid, but the service included accompanying and checking you got back into your home and being ready to be supportive if someone had a problem getting in or out of the car or a bit wobbly walking or confused.

So perhaps to the hairdresser with a minder?