Other babies

I had a ruptured ectopic at 14 weeks. I dreamt while under the GA that I had twins and went through 10years of life with them until I came round to find I had nothing! I had to start a new job in another region involving a house move, job move eats 6/52 weeks layer. It was all very traumatic and I've never forgotten it!

Thankyou Gorki

Thistledoo I sympathise with you. although I have never had a stillbirth.I did midwifery training in the late 60s and can still remember how those poor mothers of stillbirths were treated.They were told to forget about it and have another baby.A few days after I had my first baby in 1969, a girl was brought into the ward who had just had a stillbirth.She was put into a single room, the door was shut and she was left alone ''to cry it out''.The sound of her sobs remain in my memory.

I have been wondering for some time now whether I would start a thread aimed at grandparents out there that suffered a tragic stillbirth many years ago. It would be interesting to hear the views about how things have changed with regard bereaved parents. I suffered a horrid experience 38 years ago and never a day passes when I don't stop to think about the son who had no chance of life, and no explanation as to why this should have happened. I remember his birthday every year without fail. Back then there was no help at all.

A big hug and to all those Grans and their daughters (and any others close to them) who have lost babies at any stage. I feel for you all.

pinkprincess. That was very sad.

DD would have been a twin. I lost the other one at 13 wks PG.
DD has had two miscarriages.
Whilst miscarriage is heartbreaking I can only imagine what it's like to have a still birth or to have a baby that doesn't survive.

Ariadne

How sad for you Ariadne my son is 43 so I relate to you. My daughter ,aged 45, had a miscarriage of an unexpected pregnancy last year and she still mourned it

Ariadne.

One of my twin sons would be 43 now.

One of my grandchildren lived for just 25 minutes.He was born alive at just 20 weeks into the pregnancy.He put up a very brave fight to stay alive,but sadly had to give up.
I still think of him.He would have been ten years old now.

That must have been so hard for both of them.

Well said, indeed.

vampire DD3 had 3 miscarriages before she had DGS2 and also had another baby in March. It's not much help I know but there is hope. DD3 was really brave when DD2 had a baby two weeks after her third miscarriage but it was hard for her.

My DGD had to be resuscitated at 3 minutes old. When I think of what might have been if the circumstances had been different........It is written in her red book (needed CPR at 3 mins) and each time we see it we feel sad for the ones who come so close to life but don't quite make it. Every happy moment in life is tinged with sadness.

Well said. DD2 was due to have a baby yesterday but sadly miscarried earlier in the pregnancy. It's a difficult time for her even though she's trying hard not to think about what might have been.