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Do you want to die in a bungalow?

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Aka Thu 31-Oct-13 09:05:48

Iam64 is there a law which says you can't keep a dog in a bungalow?

Many people like bungalows and yes, many older people do say they want to downsize to one. So where is the 'bobbin spouting off without putting his brain in gear' ?

Stansgran Thu 31-Oct-13 09:02:26

I do know someone who refuses to leave his home which has four chair lifts. He now needs extensive care and is limited to one room. I think refusing to leave your home is one thing but it can be supremely selfish if not married to an able younger woman as he is. Stubbornness is not a charming feature of some older disabled people

joannapiano Thu 31-Oct-13 08:57:47

We like our bungalow.Too busy living in it to think about being carried out of here in a box.And a big advantage is that we don't have to worry about stairs/stairgates for our GC.

Elegran Thu 31-Oct-13 08:37:11

I have lived in a bungalow since 1967 and I don't want ever to leave it. Nothing wrong with bungalows, it is the idea that everyone wants to live (and die) in one that is mistaken. Most people want to end their days in their own home, wherever it is, but without having to be isolated in one room because they can't climb the stairs or get in and out of the front door.

More help to keep them there would be good, but building more homes with easy access would be good too. Four storey town houses are for the young and spry.

Iam64 Thu 31-Oct-13 08:35:28

I didn't read Flick, gagagran or liminetta as grumpy old women Aka - I was laughing as I read their comments. I'm completely with them, and I'd rather pop my clogs than be separated from whichever dogs I'm sharing my life with when I can no longer care for them, or myself. We were lucky enough to support mum, and her dog, in the family home until a mater of days before she died. My deep regret is we didn't just keep her there, but we'd hoped for a medical miracle. If we'd known how little time was left, we'd have wanted her to die in the home she loved, where she brought us up and lived the greater part of her adult life. Some young government representative talking about old folks wanting to die in a bungalow - another bobbin spouting off without putting his brain in gear. Life isn't all about practicalities, thankfully.

tiggypiro Thu 31-Oct-13 08:27:00

Have to disagree up to a point FlicketyB.
I would not want to end my days on a shelf in a warehouse but I do want a bungalow. I broke my leg 5 years ago and living in my present house was awful. I hate stair lifts and without a great deal of major work there is nowhere for a downstairs loo etc. My kitchen is too small to eat in and transferring food to the dining room whilst on 2 crutches is something I never want to go through again. My garden is on the large size and although I love gardening I have no illusions of being able to manage it in future years. We do not have anything resembling a decent bus service here.
I have set myself a target of being in a bungalow in a nearby town by the time I am 70 (5 years) as I want to move on my terms and when I hopefully have energy still for a new challenge. I am beginning to think about exactly what I want and looking forward to downsizing, being near the shops (hate shopping so anything to make it quicker!) and good transport links.

Aka Thu 31-Oct-13 08:17:58

So what's wrong with encouraging builders to build smaller houses? We need a mix if people want to downsize (note the emphasis on want ). And bungalows can have gardens. And sheds.

I think it's a quantum leap from the government asking builders to provide some smaller houses and saying that you require a 'shelf in a warehouse'.

Wasn't there an outcry on the 'bedroom tax' thread just because there wasn't enough smaller houses available.

What a bunch of grumpy old women some of us are shock

liminetta Thu 31-Oct-13 08:12:53

Ha, ha!, Your post made me laugh so much, [FlicketyB] ..(the end part I mean),I must agree, They will have to drag me kicking and screaming from my lovely house with its many rooms, where I can wander at will.; of which I have bought and paid for by working hard all my life.
I sometimes go to activities at local sheltered housing, and a few people have spoken about their regret of leaving their home.One lady now suffers from depression as her and her husband live there in a small flat,and although it is lovely, she finds that husband is always "under her feet" and she has no "me space"

Gagagran Thu 31-Oct-13 08:07:24

Hear! Hear Flickety! Well said. But will they listen? No chance.

FlicketyB Thu 31-Oct-13 08:03:52

I have just listened to a news report and heard a government minister encouraging builders to build more bungalows to free up bigger homes for families and 'because most pensioners want to die in a bungalow'

Well, I, for one, do NOT want to live - or die - in a bungalow or in a tiny sheltered flat with nowhere to grow a few vegetables, nowhere for DH to potter around with his tools or store his ebay purchases and sales, with no study with room for our partnership desk and plenty of book space, no space for DC, their spouses and DGC and with a kitchen that assumes we live off Wiltshire Farm Foods, good though they may be for some.

Yes, some people as they age are severely physically disabled which restricts their lives and housing needs but the vast majority of pensioners for most of their retirement years are very happy in the houses they currently live in with space for them and their retirement occupations.

I am sick and tired of being told by government ministers and other callow youth that because I am retired, all I require from life is a shelf in a warehouse where I can perch until I topple off it and can be carted away in a coffin.