One weekday night DBH and I had just returned from a long trip, so decided to eat before going home at a small inn not far away. It was packed, much to our surprise. The tables were filled with chatty older couples, all discovering that they were there because of an offer for a cheap midweek break with a certain newspaper, DBH and I being the odd ones out as we don't read the paper (I'll leave you to guess which one) and lived nearby. They were all without exception Londoners. They got on to the subject of immigration, and had us in stitches - unwittingly.
They complained bitterly for an hour at least and it all got quite depressing, until the photos came out, of their children and grandchildren. Then it was 'This is *, he is a doctor in Spain'. 'Hannah is picking grapes in California'. 'Felicity is a teacher in India' and we just looked at each other in amazement. We could hardly believe what we were hearing. They were completely oblivious.
I live near a small town in East Anglia. It buzzes and thrives. The shops are all open, the streets are busy and I love it. It would not be like that if it were not for the eastern europeans and portuguese who live here. They look smart, speak well, and I despair for our own children who look heavy and scruffy by comparison. However, the next generation will soon integrate and I hope that they will learn from each other. Maybe I'm just an optimist, but I think it has given us a shake-up that we needed, our own young people really do seem to be lacking in many areas.
I think it's our fault, as parents, but unwittingly. We wanted a better life for our children than the one we had. Maybe they need a tougher life. We needed to be cruel to be kind. I would rather tackle that problem than try to keep immigrants out, from what I can gather few of them intend to stay here for more than a couple of years any more than our own children intend to stay abroad working for ever, although of course there are exceptions. I bet most of us have relatives who emigrated. We would be incensed if they were on the receiving end of racial abuse.
This thread has been fascinating to read.