My OH's family had to leave SA at the time of Apartheid, as the new rules meant they could not live together. They did need help at the beginning, but worked very very hard to overcome difficutlies- despite so many problems. All the children did really well, and re-paid the initial social help debts over, and over, and over again- and so is the next generation.
Why is it that some people, in the face of huge adversity, become more and more determined to overcome them- and others just seem to use them as an 'excuse'- with some families being on benefit for generations? The answers are truly complex- and I hate the tabloid's answers.
I can totally understand why people hesitate to discuss this, due to the dreadful history or the Work Houses, etc, and due to the just as dreadful exploitation of the tabloids with the ensuing vilification of some groups (single mothers come to mind). And yet, why is it totally taboo, in the UK, to discuss the issues, without being acused of having a 'tabloid' thinkset.
Why do so many deny the fact that some 'poor' are indeed more deserving than others- when we all full know it is the plain truth?