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Loneliness

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Culag Mon 17-Feb-14 09:15:43

There's a report in today's Guardian which says that 'loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity'. Since my husband died I have started a new life in a new area and made some good new friends. But I am desperately lonely at evenings and weekends. I dread getting old on my own, having seen what has happened to some family members. I often think it would be good to get together with some like minded people and set up some sort of commune. I can see many pitfalls though.

Any thoughts?

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Milly Fri 21-Feb-14 21:15:55

Hello Culag.

I am going to sound very "safe" and boring, and really too late as you have already moved, but Retirement Flats are probably the answer to your need.

I moved in to one when I was early 70s and widowed a year. It seemed too young (!) but as a friend explained to me, better to settle in now while still fairly active and have no problems later in life.

There is a lounge here where people meet for coffee and afternoon tea,
Scrabble one evening (I started that!) and various other activities if they feel like it. On the whole I only do the Scrabble as belong to a Choir and am a bit of a "loner". But its all there if loneliness strikes and we all live independently - shut our front door and get on with our cooking, tv etc. if we wish, and mix if we wish.

And of course we have the "cushion" of a call line if we have a problem, also a House Manager who looks after all the annoying day to day things like bins, and outside decoration (not so day to day!) etc.

Good Luck to you whatever you decide, we're all Sisters under the skin and know what you are going through.

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