Same sex marriages now legal

sitting on my hands

So good to see the reports when and the couple's as you say have been together for so long,one of my best friends has decided to finally take the plunge after 14yrs with his partner so we are looking forward to a great day of celebrations later in the year.

I find it a bit odd that same sex couples are rushing to get married but many heterosexual couples are quite happy just living together without going through a ceremony.

Well, heteroshave always had the option, I suppose?

Lovely to see all those joyful people able to celebrate like everyone else.

I can't come to terms with it. I would never criticise any gay person, it's a fact of life. A sad fact, I think, but no blame can be attached.

But marriage? No. That's something else.

But, live and let live.

OH and I had a big row discussion this morning. He is completely against same sex marriages, I think it is lovely that they can build such a sound relationship. I bet the percentages of same sex divorces proves lower than heterosexual divorces.

What ever floats their boat !
:-) :-)

jings Why do you say it is a sad fact ? Surely a loving relationship between two people cannot be sad. I heard some one say the other day " isn't it a shame in a world where so many men (women) hate each other, that there are those that cannot feel happy for two men (women) to love each other "

Jingle has it in a nutshell..

I think it's great. I suppose I have been more used to people around me being brave enough to 'come out', being in my 50s, so am more aware how many people around me are gay. And how normal they are, with the same desire for a long-lasting and happy relationship.

I always worried that my children would be gay; not because of them actually being gay but because they would feel different and unhappy in some way. So, along with all the gay people that can now be totally open about their relationships and also legalise them, I reckon there are a lot of mums that are happy for them too.

I think it's great too. Just two people committing themselves to each other.

We have brought homosexuality into the 21st century. We are very diverse creatures and anyone not liking it does not have to mix with someone in a same sex marriage. Politeness doesn't cost anything so just smile and walk on. Maybe it will stop the homophobia that is so common today. Good luck to anyone marrying today. (and any day)

I was wondering for ages what 'heteroshave' was, Ariadne, and how it could be legal!

I'm just confused. I thought the whole idea of civil partnerships was to give same-sex couples equal legal status with married couples - something that was long overdue. The only thing that bothers me about same-sex marriages is that the terminology irritates the pedant in me. I cannot escape the feeling that a "marriage" is a legal union of a man and a woman.

You could change your thinking lefthanded to a "marriage" is a legal union between two people who love each other.

ana Hadn't noticed!

I'm with you Jings, I believe a marriage is between a man and a woman.

However I wish all the couples a happy married life, even if it is not for me.

Well I'm a mum who is looking forward to being part of my daughter's civil partnership celebation in the summer. My girls opted for civil partnership a few months back and we've been planning accordingly. Marriage is not yet an option in Scotland but the girls are happy with their plans. If, given the choice of civil or church ceremony, they'd opted for church, I'd have objected as I would for any other couple with no church connection.
I can't agree with Jings that it is sad but I can see she's put some thought into it and has reached a considered opinion. Others have expressed reservations too and I'm not out to convert anyone. What I do find hard to take is the heartless dismissal of the future happiness and commitment of my daughter and the whole gay community with flippant remarks like 'whatever floats their boat'. Can't you see how hurtful and patronising such an attitude is?

I am with those who believe that 'marriage' is between a man and a women. I have always felt that being gay sometimes leads to a lonely life, so I am happy that it is no longer a hidden fact that two people of the same sex can happily (and legally) co-habit, but I do think marriage is stretching the point.

mcem I'm sure that the remark 'whatever floats their vote' was not meant dismissively, but rather in the spirit of 'live and let live', at least that's how I took it.

Sorry, that was my fat fingers again, meant to say 'boat'.

it is irrelevant to me what people I know do in their private lives. Being a nurse I have worked with many people in committed same sex relationships and find them universally kind and genuine friends. However, and without logic, I find I have an instinctive dislike of the concept of marriage between same sex couples. For some reason I do not have the same feelings for civil partnerships and wish there was a similar institution for heterosexual couples. A bit of inequality there. I have put considerable thought into my feelings as respect for all is a mantra for me but I have, as yet, not been able to reconcile my dissonance on this.

The fact that two people want to mark their loving relationship, and incidentally provide the same kind of inheritance rules as obtain to hetero couples, is their business and theirs alone.

Why does anyone have an opinion on this? It's simple: if you don't like the idea of same sex marriage, then don't marry someone of the same sex.

There - problem solved.

Marriage was always primarily a matter of politics or business - often it still is.