Of course I'll respect Kitty's choice too. Although it is not easy, as I taught for many years in the large Comprehensive I described presviously, where most of the best students were creamed off by the local private Grammar school and the Catholic school in the very town. And yes, our school, our students- would have benefited from the school being truly comprehensive, imho. And yes, i would have happily sent our children to that school- but they went to the higch schools and upper schools, all 3 comprehensives, in the catchment areas where we lived- one of which I taught at previously and was senior teacher/head of faculty.
Most of our family and friends sent their kids to private school, and some to top Public boarding schools. We've had to learn to agree to disagree- was not easy at times- especially when some friends accused us of sacrificing our children to our principles, which was very hard to take. Especially those who wer heads, deputies and senior teachers or state comprehensives- but who still sent their kids privately- which I felt was 'wrong and hypocritical'- as if those schools were not good enough for their children, why were they 'good enough' for other kids- including my own. if they believed in the schools they taught at, and the principles behind- why didn't they back them up. At least most friends and family who opted out, did so because they didn't believe the comprehensives were good (they of course had never been in one, and had absolutely no idea whatsoever about what went in in those sschools and how they worked, but based their opinion on hearsay, and 'class' divide)- but at least they were more honest about it. Many of my nieces and nephews are a public school, boarding, or top private schools (as you well know, there are many private schools in the UK which are dire, and staffed entirely by failed teachers, sadly- they range from the sublime to the ridiculous too).
I am so glad the society I grew up in is not entrenched in class warfare and stuck in its (wonderful) history- and wish my grandchildren could grow up here- from that point of view.