Just because more hospices and kind and compassionate carers won't be sorted by next week is that a reason for campaigning for legalizing euthanasia?
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What a difficult decision to make.
(105 Posts)Businessman Jeffrey Spector went with his family recently to Dignitas in Switzerland to end his life.
He had an inoperable tumour on his spine which would leave him paralysed from the neck down.
He had survived for 6 years but had recently gone into a decline and made the decision that this was the time to go. His brave family supported him.
How desperately sad. I admire him for this courage. RIP. 
Maybe energies would be better spent on campaigning for effective end of life care for all, because it can and is provided in many cases.
Because there are some awful situations where the patients have been let down so horribly by the system or individuals doesn't mean people should be dispatched early to avoid the bad care.
And it doesn't mean that those of us who know about dreadful end of life care should be called, by implication, liars either. But the question is bigger than this - of course there should be better end of life care AND the choice to opt out earlier if so desired
I'm sure we would all like to see better end of life care and should be lobbying for it.
However euthanasia is not an alternative, it is an option taken personally (not by anyone else) to end ones life rather than live with your situation. Legalising this would ensure that safeguards are in place to prevent anyone other than the sufferer influencing their decision, and prevent those suffering with, for instance, depression, from making a decision when in a poor state of mind.
I have two friends who have effectively opted or euthanasia. One sad now deceased had leukaemia and found the chemo at the time unbearable and only a short term relief from the inevitable, she opted to stop treatment and died at home with her family a couple of months later. Th other, still living has lung cancer and has been given 6 months, chemo is estimated to give him an extra 3 months, he has decided to live for 6 months and enjoy it as best he can. Both these people had full support from friends and family in their decisions.
There are other kinds of pain to the physical ones, too. Given a terminal illness which they know will end in complete bodily, mental and emotional breakdown, many people would rather die when they choose to, rather than fight the inevitable decline. They stop eating and drinking and "turn their faces to the wall". Much better for them and for their loved ones to take a conscious and informed decision and make their exit with dignity. To misquote T S Eliot " not with a whimper but a bang"
thatbags and fleetstreetfox[whoever he is].
First one. Humans dont "allow" someone to kill themselves in messy..
Do they? Or am I completely misunderstanding his tweet.
2nd one. What a load of rubbish[to fleetstreetfox]
3rd one. I have been thinking about that this morning. I am not sure that the Bible says this, though I could be wrong. I need to look it up.
The church may have said so, so he could be right on that part.
[there were not people before the church].
Of course there were people before the church.
oh soon what rubbish you spout sometimes, dont bother looking it up in the Bible I dont want to know. My DF chose to end his own life by turning his head to the wall, refusing food and drink, he chose to end his life in his own home in his own bed while he had the voice to do so and we, his family, supported him in his decision.
I thought that people would want it looked up, but no I wont.
Ana. Agree to differ.
thatbags brought up the church. I didnt.
Assisted dying is not euthanasia. It is mistaken to conflate the two. Dignity in Dying and other similar organisations in other countries explain the differences very well.
Thatbags, you are quite right, but I suspect "assisted dying" is what most of us are talking about, the exact word does not change the comments. I doubt anyone would condone true euthanasia. Let's not get too pedantic about such a serious subject that affects some of us deeply.
And let us not forget the Greek roots of the word euthanasia, either. It is made up of two parts which mean, respectively, good or well, and death - a good death, as opposed to a bad death. It now means putting someone (or some animal) to death which is more specific, and nothing to do with deciding that life has come full circle and it is time to get off the roundabout.
All the good end-of-life care in the world makes no difference if someone really wishes to be out of it - as my dear husband said a few days before he died "This is getting tedious" He would have been pleased to choose the time of his departure, not wait for it like a long-delayed train.
Grannytwice the two cases you linked to are indeed horrible. We do not have a perfect healthcare system. Some hospitals are badly run. It is good these cases have been identified and investigated. Hopefully things will improve as more hospitals are 'Ofsteded'.
I hope things are left as they are, with improvements in end of life care. I would not want to see a Dignitas in this country.
which in this instance means grandkids around.
People are left to die in terrible pain. I had to throw a hissy fit in a hospital ward in 2002 before the nursing staff would summon a doctor to prescribe pain relief for my dying FiL.
I'm not ashamed of what I did and I'd do it again 
Of course people should be able to choose how they die when they are terminally ill.
Agreed, they certainly should.as another poster has said, why do we treat human beings in a worse way thatn animals, when we end their lives for them and don't allow them to suffer terribly until they die?Both end of life care and a centre like Dignitas is needed.
pompa, I expect most on this thread are talking about assisted dying but at least one poster mentioned euthanasia as if that's what we are talking about. That is why I commented on the difference. Words matter because the wrong word means people misunderstand.
As you were.
I believe that a very high percentage of the population is in favour of making assisted dying legal in thr UK.
Well said Anya and Roses totally agree.
When I set this thread going I was expecting a torrent of anti assisted dying. I am relieved to see from my calculation that there are more in favour than against.
When my dear mum had had enough she refused food and eventually water. I was criticised for going along with her plan. I did what she wanted and have no regrets. I miss her every day.
Pompa, it is absolutely essential people use the right word- for the right concept, in this instance. I find it almost impossible to believe that some people can confuse or even compare, euthanasia and assisted dying- let alone capital punishment.
Sadly, since Shipman, doctors are very hesitant to help someone for the fear of being accused and sued. In the pre Shipman days, it was fairly common, even with the Royals- for an imminent death to be deliberately hastened with increased dosage of drugs, usually morphine, as a gesture of human kindness and compassion. We don't allow animals to suffer- why should we do so with those humans we truly love?
Not every one has the mastery of vocabulary that brings exactly the right word to mind, I am one of those. Being pedantic just make those like me feel inferior.
granjura is right to refer to the impact of Shipman's murderous behaviour on doctors ability or willingness to do what countless others did before them. It was common for increasing doses of drugs, usually morphine, to be given to the dying to ease their way.
Apologies to gj for not including her in my support for granny twice and Ana when I commented on this thread yesterday evening. X post granjura. The experience you have because of where you live is particularly valuable to this discussion.
Pompa, you are a man, ergo you can never be right!Only joking of course.

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