Granny23, you can only get help for personal care, but having got it, no one asks what you spend it on.
I totally disagree with rosesarered on the previous page.
It would have been interesting to see how 'council help' would have worked when DH was trying to mow the lawn a couple of years ago. He fell over, slid along the grass and attempted to move a tree-root with his head, which didn't do him an awful lot of good. I was indoors, fortunately had my mobile in my pocket and he asked me to come out and bring a garden chair so that he could struggle to his feet. Consequently, no more lawn-mowing therefore need to pay a gardener on a regular basis. It goes without saying that things like window-cleaning are 'out'.
We are just about to have the bathroom completely renovated to 'mobility' standards including walk-in shower, non-slip floor, easy-clean walls, higher loo, the lot. Cost: approx £13K. So I hope, rosesarered you will agree that we DO spend our own money on things we choose, that will make life easier, safer and more comfortable for the remaining time we have on earth.