I have read through the AA application form and cannot see that DH would qualify as the only items where I could tick the box are help with dressing (I have to do his buttons and help put jumpers over his head) and difficulty using the phone (by the time he has found it - in its usual place - it has stopped ringing. As to help getting in/out of a bath he has not attempted that in at least 5 years.
However, DH would easily meet all the criteria in Galen's PP list - sit down to prepare vegetables??? He has never prepared vegetables, sitting, standing or lying down in his entire life!!! Sitting down to put on socks and shoes??? Doesn't everyone??? He already has a high toilet seat and rails in the shower and at front door. Also a pill dosage box, which does not remind him to take his pills - I have to do that and remind/help him to put his new hearing aids in and out.
These things are the least of our worries. Why is there no mention of inability to do simple household tasks e.g. ironing, operating the washing machine, hoovering, shopping for food, cooking a simple meal, changing bedding, setting & lighting the fire? or financial stuff e.g. bill paying, remembering passwords, reading and submitting meter readings. What about feeling the cold and having the heating going full blast 24/7. Not to mention being unable to cut toenails, shave without cutting yourself or put E45 on your own back and relying on someone else or paying to have the garden dug/planted/weeded/watered, hedge cut, windows washed, curtains rehung or even a light bulb changed. Are all these things regarded as being simply part of growing old or perhaps spouse's duties?
It seems to me that these benefits are awarded in a quite arbitrary way according to rules devised by those who have never struggled on a low income or had to do all their own housework, cooking, DIY, etc.