Anniebach Did you live in privately rented accommodation or did you have a mortgage to pay? On a cleaner's wages, you'd be hard pushed these days, with either private rent or mortgage to pay, to manage on one salary.
Aside from that, whilst I believe that weekly working hours are far too long for both men and women, and particularly for people with young families, should a woman (or a man)devote years of their lives and all their waking hours to housework and looking after children? I don't think that is healthy for either them or the children. And if a woman (or a man) spends many years at home, this will affect any career plans they may have had.
I agree that many children in this country are suffering because of the long working hours demanded of their parents, but that is not the parents' fault and I think it is wrong to put it down to their selfishness.
It appears that children in this country are far more prone to mental illness and emotional difficulties than in many other countries of similar economic standing. I don't believe this is down to mothers going out to work (they go out to work in those countries too) but to many other factors, not least of which are sky-rocketing property prices, stagnating wages, insecure housing and employment, and expensive and often barely adequate nursery provision.
There is plenty of stirring talk at the moment about the importance of giving everyone an equal shot. I feel that, in reality, far from prioritising children, the cuts to education and services (such as Sure Start Centres - cut by a third) and benefits - including in-work benefits - mean that children will continue to be the victims of short-sighted policies that will in the long term adversely affect the physical and mental health of the country and damage its intellectual standing - as has happened in the USA.
As for Fay Weldon, I don't see why her opinion should be valued any more highly than any other woman's opinion. She came from a middle class family and benefited from a good education, culminating in a place at St Andrew's. When her first marriage (to a headmaster many years her senior) failed, she went out to work and became head of copywriting in an advertising agency. Even though she apparently worked from home (which many women can't do) I wonder if she coped without any other domestic assistance. Frankly, she is one person who really gets on my nerves, with her constant criticisms of feminism and her suggestion that sexual harassment was welcomed by women in her day.