Many in the UK family went to some of the top Public Schools- some nieces and nephews currently board at Public Schools - and others, including GCs are at top Private Schools (which are not Public schools) - those of the previous generations did suffer terribly, it also gave them access to the 'Old Boys Public School' network and they have done VERY well out of it.
OH went to Grammar School- and where I grew up there were NO private schools- and the only ones in the large towns were only for posh British kids, Diplomats, etc.
Our DDs went to the local Comprehensives-much to the disdain of some of our colleagues and relatives. They have done just as well in their careers than many of their peers who went to Public or Private schools- partly because it gave them the ability to communicate with anyone, in any sphere of life.
GCs started in local state primary schools- but circumstances re severe, life-threatening allergy and large classe sizes and bullying resulted in their parents making the choice to send them to excellent private schools. I find it really sad and seriously worrying for the country- that they felt they had no choice.
Jealousy and envy- no at all. We made a clear choice- and I chose to teach only in state schools- as I passionately feel ALL children deserve an excelllent education. Being born in a loving, supporting family who are there to encourage and pick up the pieces as and when - is privilege enough.