Women and children aren't allowed out without male supervision. Women and children wouldn't be allowed to go ahead of men, they'd be shoved back. Probably beaten back. Changing the attitudes of a country would take more than a couple of decades, and I think that is where the root of the problem is.
My husband (divorced this year so now ex husband) was on Herrick 12 in Afghanistan, March 2010 to October 2010, at Nad-e-Ali. Reservist in the Army. Just for context.
A young boy told him a girl would never be allowed to get better marks than him in a test, he was incredulous such a thing could possibly happen. It's hard to imagine a country where females are very much regarded as beneath men.
It's been difficult to watch what is happening now, and thinking about the bloody loss of life. Life changing injuries. The money (Biden did harp on about the trillions spent in his speech this evening- I mean, it's not like anyone forced the USA to spend out, is it)? All that effort - I can't help but think that the departure was badly planned, there was bad intelligence given to World Leaders (BBC report on Friday said the Taliban could be in charge of Afghanistan in 90 days - literally 4 days later they are running the country)!
The stress I went through when my now Ex was out there still makes me sad. Frustrated. He came back a different man, rather more aggressive in his manner, very full of himself - we separated 18 months after he came back.
I'm keeping an eye on the Nowzad charity in Kabul and donated yesterday. We met Pen Farthing in 2011, a lovely young man and dedicated to making lives better. His Facebook video yesterday was heart rending, they will have to humanely destroy a number of animals that won't be able to travel (too ill, won't handle the journey). He's trying to get the vet staff out - a female vet will for certain be a Taliban target. They have a number of donkeys - trying to find safe spaces for them. Dozens of dogs and cats (the Taliban hate dogs).
I'm just sad, and frustrated, and think it could and should have been handled so very much better.