Doodledog
Your point is clear, but I don’t agree that someone discharged to a care home is ‘well’. They would be sent home if that were the case, and I don’t think that it is logical at all.
Do you consider a young disabled person ‘well’? I have a friend with a disabled son who lives with a rota of carers in a house owned by the council ( or possibly the local healthcare trust). His (24/7) care is paid for, although his needs are mental rather than physical. His rent is free, and I think his food etc is paid from his benefits, as he will never be gainfully employed.
Would you charge him (or his mum) for that? The system gives him a chance of a happy and (relatively) normal life that he wouldn’t otherwise have unless his mother gave up any semblance of a life of her own. He is probably unlikely to live to old age, but who knows what advances in care will come along? If he does have a long life, at what point would you start to charge him and why? If you wouldn’t charge, on what basis is his case different from on old person with Dementia?
I feel you are coming up with increasingly complex situations in an effort to show that what I'm saying is wrong Doodledog. Anyway.
Does the young man in your example own a house worth, say £200k, that nobody else lives in, that he will never live in again? If he does, then he should sell it and use the proceeds to help fund how he lives now. When the money runs out, he should expect the taxpayer to cover his needs. His mum shouldn't be responsible for any of it.
Its got nothing to do with what's wrong with a person, how old they are, or what their relatives own. And not everybody in a care home is "unwell". Many of them are just old.
So much for my last word on the matter....