Most of the posts I have read on here have been both negative and defensive. I can understand why the "it's not all men" and "my OH/sons are not a threat" type of comments on here are made but couldn't we be more positive?
When my son was about 16/17, he and his friends all seemed to be tall. You know how you get artistic years, academic years, sporty years - theirs was, among other things, tall. They were also very confident young men. I can remember saying to my son that when they were out as a group, they could seem very daunting and, was it possible for them to remember to move aside for "people like me" when they were walking over the vast expanses of parkland in our town. I expect they did anyway. I wanted him to have some understanding of how it can feel to a lone woman. I went on to say that if they were out at night and got behind a woman walking on her own, it would be nice to cross the street and get ahead of her.
I don't know how they would know just how vulnerable women can feel if we don't tell them. So rather than arguing the toss about who is to blame, can't we be positive. Can't we suggest small things that can help those nice men in our lives, young and old, be more aware of how women feel and what they can do to make them feel safer?
I've got another 'keen'... Ouch!