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Floral tributes at funerals.

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Aspen Mon 12-Sept-22 16:19:51

Until relatively recently sending flowers when somebody died was the expected thing to do then it was changed to "No flowers. donations to (favoured charity")"
The ridiculous sight of layers of flowers beginning to rot and smell in cellophane wrappers really annoys me. Several boxes could be attached to the railings of these residences so people could drop in donations. Counting out the money would be a pleasanter job than clearing up the sludgy mess.

SuzieHi Mon 12-Sept-22 19:21:19

Charity donations would have been much better.
I agree flowers for the living are wonderful- pointless for the dead & a complete waste of money.

Teddy bears left - also silly- toys for a hospital or children’s home much better. Why would anyone leave a marmalade sandwich in the street or park? Obviously going to feed the rats

We loved the Paddington clip but common sense should prevail.

Barmeyoldbat Mon 12-Sept-22 19:28:51

My daughter had a thing about flowers, she didn’t like them because they always died!!! So I had a problem about what to do when her ashes were buried, I knew she would hate flowers so I dried the petals of roses that I was given and scattered them on her ashes. Now I have the problem of what to do when I visit her grave.

Iam64 Mon 12-Sept-22 19:35:15

It’s good thst people are removing the cellophane wrappers. The flowers will make good compost.
My mother wanted floral tributes for dad’s funeral and for hers. I.m hoping to have rooted floral tributes in soil, on my coffin. Loved ones can dig out their chosen flower/small shrub for their own garden - and my chosen charity

Dinahmo Mon 12-Sept-22 19:37:14

I'm sorry but I can't help thinking about the amount of money that has been spent on those flowers. Throughout the country it must amount to tens of thousands which could be better spent elsewhere.

Nannarose Mon 12-Sept-22 19:56:57

Leaving or throwing flowers does seem to be an ancient tradition. I'm not entering into the rights & wrongs of the current situation!
I agree in principle about flowers at funerals - but I recall, as a student nurse, seeing at Piccadilly Circus, what must have been one of the last funerals for one of the flower sellers. The hearse and following cars were amazing. I would not want to criticise something so heartfelt and appropriate.
When one of my cousins died young, we were asked to bring garden flowers, and that was lovely.

Calendargirl Mon 12-Sept-22 20:26:54

If you don’t collect wreaths or flowers quite swiftly from our local crematorium, they get thrown out virtually the day after the funeral, as they just can’t accommodate the large numbers otherwise.

So some people take them home and place on family graves or similar.

So much better to have one main wreath and then donations IMHO.

But good for the florists, all helps local businesses.