Funerals

I can understand why you are angry paddyanne

Thankfully another venue has offered to hold the funeral service.

Yes they did. And they had lots of excuses.

volver

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-tayside-central-62916540

Excuses, excuses.

So that individual crematorium made the decision to close.

so divisive and ridiculous where people are being asked not to ride their bikes on Monday
I thought that must be a joke but apparently not!

It was British Cycling which gave this directive and now they have back-pedalled (excuse pun) and said they had got it wrong.

www.theguardian.com/sport/2022/sep/15/british-cycling-apologies-for-advice-queen-funeral

Monday has been designated a Bank Holiday but it seems that some organisations have taken it upon themselves to decree that everything must come to a halt.

These are not orders from the Government and most certainly not from the Palace.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-tayside-central-62916540

Excuses, excuses.

25Avalon

Paddyann do you know who made the decision to postpone your friend’s funeral? It’s possible by all accounts that it could have gone ahead. Perhaps your friend’s family made the decision to postpone. Some people may have had a dilemma about coming to the funeral or the family may have felt your friend’s funeral would lose some significance by being on the same day. I’m not sure I would want a relative’s funeral to be on the same day tbh. Whatever try to overcome the upset and I hope the funeral when it is rearranged will be a unique honour to your friend.

This is a very good and sensible comment.
It is either the crematorium/ funeral directors decision to cancel or the relatives.
A lot of people will be wanting to watch the funeral of the Queen on tv that day.

so divisive and ridiculous where people are being asked not to ride their bikes on Monday

Really? ?

Do you have a link to that please?
It sounds just ridiculous.

I think it has been left to the discretion of undertakers and operators of crematoria, many of which are not Council operated so may remain open.

I don't blame you one bit for being bloody livid, so would I.
As others have said, it's important to know WHO decided to cancel the booked funeral and why. If it was the undertaker doing it " out of respect" then I would find another one and I would consider the cancellation to be a breach of contract and would refuse to pay the bill incurred. If it was something outside of the undertakers control then I don't think anything can be done. It's awful how the death of the Queen has polarised the population and the media. It is like a madness has gripped many thousands of people; I was around for the funerals of Churchill, the Queen Mother, Margaret and Diana and I don't remember any of them being like this one, so divisive and ridiculous where people are being asked not to ride their bikes on Monday. I think we will be facing a huge backlash when this is over and people in the queue return to normality and face a winter of discontent.

I feel very sorry for people who have had family funerals postponed, it must be very distressing for them, especially the family DL mentioned where a baby has died. I’m so glad we managed to do my mum’s funeral as planned last week, it would have been very distressing to have postponed it. The huge focus on the Queen’s death has added to the grief of those of us who have also been bereaved at this time. It’s a difficult time.

‘Statutorily excluded’, DiamondLily? How long do you think it would take for a statute to be passed, with parliament in recess? And another thing for Charles to sign …

There's quite a sad post on MN, where a poster's one year old baby has died, and the funeral had been booked for Monday.

That's all now been cancelled and everyone is now trying to juggle a rearranged day. Very sad. I can't imagine the extra stress that might be causing.?

I think certain essential services (NHS, dentists, funerals etc.,) should have been statutorily excluded from this bank holiday, and another day off to staff, given in lieu.

A family funeral, and ongoing health care, is just as important as the funeral of a woman that 99.9% of us didn't know, and never would have.?

We are at a funeral of a former headteacher on Monday. It is still going ahead. It is evidently up to the Funeral Directors to decide. We were informed by the family that it is still happening. They asked if we were still going to be there.
I’m sorry for those who’s plans have had to be changed. It’s a stressful enough time, without having to change arrangements.

MissAdventure

Probably lots of extra work for you, too, Shinamae, making a day of it for the people who live there?

Yes we will make it a special day for all of them ?

My husband’s has a colleague’s funeral on Monday 19th- it is still going ahead as planned.

Probably lots of extra work for you, too, Shinamae, making a day of it for the people who live there?

Ailidh

I think it's appalling that the funeral should be cancelled/postponed at such short notice, though, obviously, not the late Queen's fault.

I presume the emergency services and carehome workers will be working as usual? I think that other essential workers should be required to work too.

I know it's A Moment in History but if it had been up to me I would sooner have watched the moment on catch up than do this to a bereaved family.

I work in a care home and will be working on the day of the funeral it’s not a penny extra just basic minimum wage

Transport and travel will be disrupted too

Paddyann do you know who made the decision to postpone your friend’s funeral? It’s possible by all accounts that it could have gone ahead. Perhaps your friend’s family made the decision to postpone. Some people may have had a dilemma about coming to the funeral or the family may have felt your friend’s funeral would lose some significance by being on the same day. I’m not sure I would want a relative’s funeral to be on the same day tbh. Whatever try to overcome the upset and I hope the funeral when it is rearranged will be a unique honour to your friend.

I think I would probably try to find whose "fault" it was, and then go to another company.
I'm a stickler for cutting my nose off to spite my face.
A funeral is a major part of the grieving process, one of the things to go through in order to come to terms with things.
Not the late queens fault, though I'm quite surprised that it seems to be competitive mourning for some.

Plenty of people have to work on a Bank Holiday so as it was short notice I can see no reason why the cream staff can’t work on Monday and I can understand Paddyannes anger and blamming the Queen even though it’s not really her fault. I will be really glad when I get my new glasses on Friday.

MissAdventure

I would have been more than upset if that had happened on my girls funeral day.

The pandemic was bad enough, but necessary, at the time, with what we knew, but that aside, everyone deserves the exact same respect on the day they make their last day in this world, as do those who mourn them.

Yes, it must be very upsettng indeed for those affected. I do
understand that.

However, there is no formal requirement for funerals to be postponed on Monday 19th, it is the decision of the cemetery or crematorium operator.

Granny23

The problem here lies with the local Councils . The Crematoria and graveyard workers are Council employees. All Council staff and departments, with the exception of emergency services - i.e. the skeleton staff who would normally cover weekends and Bank Holidays, will be closed. Care workers will continue to work normally but the registration of Deaths and funeral facilities will be closed as they are every Sunday. and Bank Holiday.

Our local crematoria are privately owned.

As per usual, my fingers are writing their own thing.

I would have been more than upset if that had happened on my girls funeral day.

The pandemic was bad enough, but necessary, at the time, with what we knew, but that aside, everyone deserves the exact same respect on the day they make their last day in this world, as do those who mourn them.