VS It's fine to state the obvious, such as women should be able to choose sexual partners, but when everything else you say contradicts that (eg that TWAW) then saying that is a bit pointless, and sounds like you haven't understood the situation. Logically, if TWAW, then a lesbian who goes on a dating site (of the sort where the assumption is that the point of the meeting is to have sex) and unwittingly hooks up with one, but then refuses to have sex when she realises the truth of the situation is being transphobic. You can't have it both ways. She would have done had the TW been a woman, and it is because she doesn't accept that a male bodied person with a penis is a woman that she refuses, so her refusal is discrimination against transwomen.
It is only if you accept that TWATW, and that many of them will have to accept that those of their number who are also heterosexual males will not be attractive to most lesbians that your concession that women should be allowed to 'choose who they are intimate with' is possible, which is not compatible with your oft-proclaimed position that TWAW.