Being in trouble with daughter!

Sorry - advice

I’d certainly consider not answering either. The only thing if you don’t, your daughter may think something had happened!

You’ve done nothing wrong telling your grandson what has happened to you.

I hope you are recovering well. Take care.

Your daughter’s over reacted in a very unkind, dramatic manner.
You’ve had a stroke and need looking after. If she can’t/won’t see that, protect yourself from her

why didn't you ring your daughter to tell her when you had a stroke ?

A TIA is not nothing serious

Had you told your daughter first? Was she aware you had been in hospital?

Is she reacting to how this has negatively affected her son? Why might it be upsetting him enough for it to have an impact on his exams?

While he is still in education, he is still a dependent. I would let news like this go through mum in future.

Hope your recovery remains speedy, they must have caught it very early which is good

Sorry to hear about your stroke Cleevese I hope you are starting to feel better now.
I think your daughter over reacted, a man of 18 years old is old enough to hear about your illness and to be able to deal with it. We can't and shouldn't try to protect our adult children from life.

He’s 18 and a half for heavens sake! Not a child!

What a selfish and unkind response from daughter.

You are right !

Thank you.

Is your daughter looking after you? An 18 year old man needs to know the truth. How dare she try to minimize your health matters. She owes you a big apology.

Why is this under News and Politics?

Ask A Gran would be more suitable.

I am with your daughter on this. If something like that happened to me, I doubt I would have told the grandchildren / even if they were 18+ years old. Young acults have so much going on in their lives. Worrying about grandma is something they don’t need. And, especially because you are expected to make a full recovery. You can say you are not too well and leave it at that.
I hope you get back to your normal self as soon as possible. All the best

How are young people to learn empathy and how to manage difficult situations if they’re protected like toddlers?
When their gran had a stroke my two and their cousins got themselves to the hospital because they loved their grsnnie. Two were that dangerous age of 18, the other two 21. They cheered grannie up and now 15 years later learning so many important life lessons during the lead up to her death has helped them in their move into adult life

For goodness sake he's perfectly old enough to know and care about his grandmother's health. He's not a baby.
I suspect that if you didn't answer the phone your DD might come round to check you're OK. Good luck. She might have calmed down though.

crazyH

I am with your daughter on this. If something like that happened to me, I doubt I would have told the grandchildren / even if they were 18+ years old. Young acults have so much going on in their lives. Worrying about grandma is something they don’t need. And, especially because you are expected to make a full recovery. You can say you are not too well and leave it at that.
I hope you get back to your normal self as soon as possible. All the best

So an 18 yr old is mature enough to get married, have children, have a vote in the future government of the country and go and fight in a war, but he's not old enough to be told about granny's illness?
Are you serious?

What are you supposed to say when someone asks you how you are!

I'm fine dear how are you?

How ridiculous of your DD to overreact like that. An 18 yr old is plenty old enough to hear your news and to be of help too.

I am sorry for you and hope you are getting help to recover.

MawtheMerrier

He’s 18 and a half for heavens sake! Not a child!

What a selfish and unkind response from daughter.

I agree with Maw

tell your daughter a 'tia' is a mini stroke!

Your daughter sounds very uncaring and how dare she disbelieve you. A TIA or stroke is serious and you should rest and recover slowly.... and hopefully have someone to keep an eye on you for the next few weeks. I think at 18 your GS is an adult and able to make decisions for himself, and as he clearly has a good relationship with you he should always be told the truth.. Your daughter is completely over reacting.

He is an adult. When my OH was seriously ill - in fact in his case, terminally - all 7 of my GC were closely involved with him - helping to care for him. At the time they were aged from 4 to 17. Your daughter is being quite ridiculous and totally uncaring. What can she be thinking of? I am sorry you are having to deal with this on top of your illness and wish you a speedy return to health.

Gosh. Why on earth did your daughter doubt you? I disagree very strongly with her that you should not have mentioned your health to your grandson. At 18 he’s of an age to have an independent relationship with you that’s quite apart from his parents.

My sons were only 18 and 20 when their brother-in-law died in tragic circumstances and as a family we rallied round and all supported each other through it. We keep our children informed about family health matters and they pass on such news to their own young children in an age-appropriate way.

Your daughter is being very unkind and unfeeling.
If that's her attitude towards you then I wouldnt blame you for not wishing to speak to her. You don't need further stress.

Why she thinks a young adult should be protected from knowing his grandmother is unwell is quite astonishing.

I hope you recover well - take care Cleevese

Of course he's not too young. He did ask. But family dynamics are sometimes difficult.

i think the difficulty is in granny telling GS directly that she has had a stroke, which news presumably came out of the blue, rather than the information being conveyed via his mother, GM's Daughter.
that would seem a more natural line of communication.

welbeck

i think the difficulty is in granny telling GS directly that she has had a stroke, which news presumably came out of the blue, rather than the information being conveyed via his mother, GM's Daughter.
that would seem a more natural line of communication.

His mother hadn't told him after a week for reasons best known to her, but most people would assume he'd have been told at least within a day or two.

Presumably DGS had wanted to meet up with his Granny but she had to explain why she couldn't drive for a while.