M0nica
i do not think Meghan Markle, as she was, had a clue what she was letting herself into, and didn't do anything to find out. I think her idea of being a princess seems to have been based on photographs at ceremonies and watching Disney films and she thought it was all wafting around in beautiful dresses in front of adoring crowds and returning home to a palace with lots of servants.
I think when she arrived in the UK and discovered what reality was she suffered a severe case of culture shock, that started when she discovered that Prince Harry lived in a small 2 bedroomed cottage and did his own cooking, not a palatial house or appartment surrounded by lackeys.
She also did not realise the enormous gulf between our two cultures. I also think that Prince Harry did not discuss with her what life would be like as a member of the Royal family, too afraid that if she realised too soon, she would be off like his previous girlfriends. This is why he threw a hissy fit when Prince William suggested that he slow things down and let Meghan get accustomed to what the job entailed before taking the relationship to the next stage.
But then I am with maddyone. MM immediate reaction to the shock of the real was to race back to the states where she was comfortable and knew the rules and similarly Prince Harry didn't think through what leaving the working Royal Family and scampering off to the states would entail for hm.
Both of them seem to make irrevocable decisions in the immediate heat of the moment, without research or consideration and then get upset when everything doesn't go as they imagined it would and people do not immediately fall in with their wishes.
I think that these days the RF need to consider whether there needs to be a compulsory training period for anyone planning to be a working Royal so that they can decide whether the lifestyle will suit them.
I believe they do this in Sweden where future working Royals must attend Royal school for 6-18 months. It is a mixture of studies and mentoring that covers things like: workings and organisation of the Royal Household, Swedish History - military ceremonial and cultural roles, etiquette and diplomacy, foreign languages, University courses in political science, government and politics, role of parliament and government, Public Administration at state and local level,
It means that the Swedish Royal family has managed to incorporate spouses from distinctly non Royal backgrounds, Prince Daniel (former personal trainer and gym owner) took 18 months as he married to the heir, - Princess Sofia's (former model and Love Island contestant) took 6-8 months. Chris O'Neill refused and has never been a working royal and has his own Finance business. He and Princess Madeleine live quietly as non-working royals in a gated community in Florida. She does the odd charity event, usually for the Queen of Sweden's childhood foundation and they appear at big Royal events. In fact Princess Madeleine and her husband live the kind of life Harry and Meghan said they wanted but instead pursued Hollywood fame