Caleo
Doodledog, I wish I had not mentioned older people's tending more than younger people to have entrenched attitudes. It is a minor point, because the real danger and insult to trans people seems to be from society in general not providing sufficient facilities and education about trans people.
For instance, as an old woman myself recently recovered from a stroke I know how important it is that being bed bathed and toileted is done by care staff who are experienced in helping naked people at their most vulnerable, and I hope that an elderly trans man or trans woman in a care home or hospital will be psychologically as well cared for as I was .
Fair enough. We all say things that we wish we hadn't from time to time, and (as I know) it's maddening when something you didn't mean to be the main point ends up diverting the conversation from what you meant to say.
I don't believe, however, that the majority of the objections on GN come from people who are simply in need of education about transpeople. Many posters have transpeople in their families, and most if not all of us have met and/or worked with trans and non-binary people. Our concern is not with transpeople themselves, but with the way the trans agenda is being imposed on society to the detriment of women.
The language is being altered to exclude women, sport is becoming a male domain, data from research is unreliable because males are being recorded as females, simply at their say-so. There are fewer places of safety for women as anyone can access what used to be safe spaces simply by saying that they are women in their heads, even though they are male in their bodies. It goes on and on.
None of this means that anyone would want to see vulnerable transpeople* humiliated or in any way harmed. That is not what we are saying at all, and I share your hope that everyone being cared for is treated with respect both physically and psychologically.
* That is not to say that all transpeople are 'the most vulnerable group in society', as the mantra goes. They are not. TRAs are often strong men who enjoy using their strength and testosterone-fuelled anger against vulnerable women. If the hyperbole stopped, and the issue could be debate properly, without violence or coercion such as that faced by the likes of Kathleen Stock and others, then progress could be made.
On the whole, women (adult human females) are pretty good at compromise, but when our willingness to 'be kind' is used against us it is not unreasonable that we decide we've had enough and fight back.