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Infuriated by this man's attitude

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TerriBull Fri 26-Jun-26 11:20:28

Did anyone see this news story yesterday where a man blocked an 80 year old lady from using the handrail when going up the stairs from a tube station. Inexplicably he'd positioned himself against it to relax allegedly confused Hand rails are not there for that purpose. When she asked him to move because she needed the support of the rail he refused to with this comment "you can go around you've got legs!" at which point she told him she was 80 and needed the support of the handrail. I mean that's what they're actually for you moron! He then told her he was filming the interaction between them. Good! showed him up for the arse he is. At least he's been massively criticised on X for showing the clip, although it's hard to understand what makes people want to upload such material. I just hope he's outed.

My God if I was his mother watching that, I'd go the full Thatcher and handbag him for being so rude, obstructive, bloody minded and disrespectful to an elderly woman.

One day he might reach 80 and require the steadying influence of a handrail and his words may, if there's such a thing as karma, come back to haunt him when he's been obstructed hmm

TerriBull Fri 26-Jun-26 11:21:39

been being

ViceVersa Fri 26-Jun-26 11:48:33

It's not even the fact that he wanted her to move - which is bad enough - but filming it and plastering it on social media too! What happened to common decency and respect for others? I'm a lot younger than 80, but at the moment I've got one foot in a medical boot/shoe thingy because of torn ligaments and I would absolutely need to hold a handrail to hobble up or down stairs. I'm not one for wishing ill on others, but I hope karma bites him on the backside and he finds out one day just what it is like to need a bit of assistance or accommodation!

Chestnut Fri 26-Jun-26 11:50:48

I saw it and agree with every word you say. Horrible ignorant man who has been heavily criticised, so has maybe had a dose of karma already! 🤞

You really can't understand what goes on in some people's heads, blocking an elderly woman for absolutely no reason. A normal human response would be to move, it's basic politeness which should be an instant reaction in your head. Unfortunately lots of young people's heads are messed up by drugs, so who knows what they think.

TerriBull Fri 26-Jun-26 11:59:13

Since breaking an arm I do now favour a handrail for stability.

To move out of the way so she could have had clear access, just a basic consideration.

Elegran Fri 26-Jun-26 12:49:34

I expect she reacted the same way I would have - shocked into saying too little, and thinking of all the good answers when it was too late.

Maybe we should write our own script and memorise it, ready for any similar situation, telling him exactly what breed of selfish, arrogant arsehole he is! Followed by telling him (even if it wasn't quite true) exactly WHY we needed to hold on to the handrail and the reason the handrail is there in the first place - not for him to drape himself artistically over, but so that older people could get a bit of help. Adding that if we didn't hold on, our disintegrating hip joints would be unable to support us climbing these steps and we would probably fall and knock him over as we gasp for breath because of our COPD, and cause someone to call an ambulance and the police, who would not find him amusing.

The other side is that the internet is full of little videos and "readers' stories" which tend to tell very simplistic tales where one person is the villain and the other is the victim. The villain/villainess is a boss/mother-in-law/landlord , who is trying to take the credit for the employee's work/gaslight a daughterinlaw/get a tenant unfairly evicted. That video may have been faked to raise outrage and get clicks to monetise someone's account.

NotSpaghetti Fri 26-Jun-26 12:56:41

Anyone have a link??

NonnaW Fri 26-Jun-26 13:08:01

Quite apart from the lady’s need and right to hold the handrail, I spent a few years working for a company that insisted everyone should hold handrails for safety. This included directors down to apprentices, all ages. I still automatically do this.

M0nica Fri 26-Jun-26 13:09:46

You are all giving this person the 15 minutes of fame they wanted.

Charleygirl5 Fri 26-Jun-26 13:15:42

I am 82, partially sighted with mobility problems. I need to hold on to the right-hand rail. I am afraid I would have used my stick where the public wouldn't see the damage, but he would feel it!!!

That station is very close to where I live!

BlueBelle Fri 26-Jun-26 13:17:45

I doubt he’s reading Gransnet Monica and if he was he d see some rather ‘anti him’ posts

ViceVersa Fri 26-Jun-26 13:19:58

M0nica

You are all giving this person the 15 minutes of fame they wanted.

I very much doubt he's on GN!

LemonJam Fri 26-Jun-26 13:28:37

The man appeared youngish ( ie not elderly) from his voice and the skin on his hands holding his mobile phone in the video. He could see the lady's age and that she needed the use of a stick as a mobility aid. Yet he was totally oblivious to the her needs or anyone else that has mobility/sight/balance issues that may not be so obvious. He was able to hold his mobile phone to film and could easily have held onto the middle rail with that hand (if he stopped filming for a moment 🥱- he was not exactly encouraging safe passage and flow himself) ) to allow the lady to safely pass. London Underground carries signs on underground trains and around platforms to be aware of those. that may need a seat etc- what's his problem?

There is tube etiquette to keep to the left hand side going up and down stairs- to encourage flow at peak times- so that might have been the bee in his bonnet and why he was filming to highlight not everyone flows the signs? Yet this lady, as Charleygirl5 highlights, evidently needed to hold on to the right hand grab rail coming up the tube stairs because her mobility aid was in her other hand!

Rude, ill mannered and totally lacking consideration for others less able than himself- hope he has reflected and learned from his ill thought out behaviour when reading feedback posts 🤞🤞

LizzieDrip Fri 26-Jun-26 13:32:42

www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/articles/man-refused-move-80-old-160904537.html

(Hopefully the link works)

What an absolute di** head!

The way he said ‘I’m filming you’ was very intimidating, I felt.

Good for the lady, when she replied with ‘I don’t care what you’re doing…’

What on earth has happened to people😡

Plevey08 Fri 26-Jun-26 13:36:30

A dangerous thoroughly unpleasant person. I wonder what other nasty things he gets up to..He needs a visit from the police. He could certainly be traced through social media.

Fallingstar Fri 26-Jun-26 13:48:54

My DH can’t use stairs very well so if is a lift we use it but some trains stations etc., don’t have them, then he has to hold onto the handrail or he loses his balance and falls over. If I came across this man I would have told him that he either moves pronto or could carry my DH the rest of the way, his choice, and if he said he was filming it I would have congratulated him for recording his gross stupidity. But is hard to come up with this at the time.
If any young women or men watch the footage he took is a sure fire warning to them that this individual is no prize, avoid at all costs.

Delila Fri 26-Jun-26 13:52:50

They both sounded American to me…

Astitchintime Fri 26-Jun-26 13:57:51

A gentleman would have stepped down beside her, allowed her to hold the hand rail and offered a supporting hand on her other side whilst she safely made her way to the top of the stairs. I bet his parents are really proud of him now……NOT!!!

Fallingstar Fri 26-Jun-26 14:02:58

Delila

They both sounded American to me…

He sounded as if he has a London accent, the woman I can’t place but would say she is English.
I think he was doing it to create outrage and film it. There are some really nasty pieces of work out there who probably do have a following.

LemonJam Fri 26-Jun-26 14:59:40

I am also really concerned about this man publishing a video about this lady on line disclosing her visual identify. I feel his filming and posting breached her right to privacy as well as dignity and doesn't comply with the spirit of GDPR....

LemonJam Fri 26-Jun-26 15:00:43

If this lady was a member of my family I would report him the the Information Commissioners Office....