Doodledog
I don’t think anyone is saying that asking questions is bullying. But ‘race card’ accusations are. As are dissections of an interview process the dissectors weren’t part of, and the general pulling apart of a young man’s life.
If he had been proven guilty of misrepresentation then he should have been sacked - of course he should. But AFAIK that has not been proven, and public humiliation is a huge price to pay for what amount to rumours about his profiting from his racial status.
To ‘Galaxy What do you know about Caroline Flack that the rest of us don’t? I agree that talking about things isn’t bullying, but ascribing motives and pushing a narrative can be.
For context - I was once a victim of a public ‘shaming’. I don’t want to go into detail for obvious reasons, but it was devastating. The basis of it was true, but the (crucial) context was missing, and the hypocrisy I saw from people I’d thought were my friends was unbelievable to me.
I will never forget it, and I can well understand how someone might feel that life isn’t worth living if you think that everyone believes things about you that are not true. There is also the terror of not knowing what your persecutors will do next.
Mindgames can be worse than physical pain. I have a lovely husband and had a young family at the time, so I didn’t contemplate suicide, but I can see why someone young who feels alone might do so.
Thanks for your honesty Doodledog and am sorry you had to endure that. I have been through similar tough times for bad decisions I made. And am sure we are not alone in this, there will be other members who have made bad decisions or done the wrong thing, causing most harm to themselves rather than others.
This tragic young man should no longer be hounded. It is enough. More than enough. And let’s please consider his loved ones.