Christmas cards.

Don’t know how I’ve put this under pedants. Hope I get some replies.

I think if it were me, I would knock it on the head. If they were DH’s colleagues and you hardly knew them, not much point.

They will probably be relieved as well.

Yes , you sent relevant information last year , no need to send them cards from now on
I culled my list , got one anxious phone call , but never got any other indication that the cards were missed

If you hardly knew them, I’d certainly give it a miss.

The year after my mother died (she’d had dementia for ages so I’d been writing her cards anyway) I sent a final one to her few remaining far-flung friends who I never saw anyway, telling them she was gone, but that was it.

I think you’re just confirming my own thoughts. As it is, I only display the cards I receive from my DDS and close friends - the rest stay in a pile on my desk.

I agree that you should not feel obliged to continue with this, unless you know them personally and choose to continue.. It will not be expected of you.

I suppose my ‘fear’ is that I’ll get cards from them this year, so do I reciprocate?

I think I would hedge my bets. Not send any to the people I don’t know but keep some cards in reserve so that if anyone has gone to obvious trouble to send me one I can send one back.

If it were me I would stop. I would find it upsetting and suspect you might too, remembering all the old friends. Last year we found we had been sending a card and flowers to an old relative who had been dead for two years, but her family hadn't bothered to inform us.
This year I am writing cards with just greetings in them and will post them to people who send us one, and tick in the address book who we have received them from.
Most people are cutting back this year and with the cost of cards and stamps, is it really needed to wish someone you knew 40 years ago good wishes? I think a lot of people feel the same.
Cut back and don't give it another thought or upset yourself.

Georgesgran

I suppose my ‘fear’ is that I’ll get cards from them this year, so do I reciprocate?

No. Cut the cord.

Do what you feel the most comfortable with. Personally I would just stop all of those cards now.

I agree with others. I stopped sending to my late husband's friends apart from two, who remain friends with me. Also stopped sending to his extended family, scattered around the world. I had not met the majority of them.
I accidentally missed sending to one of my own friends last year. She's in her nineties. About February I received a letter from her. She had met a mutual friend who did receive a Christmas card from me! I was sharply reprimanded for leaving her out! Better make certain that hers is the first card I post this year.

Georgesgran I agree with aggies first sentence. There is only two of DH colleagues I send to and that’s because they became friends.
I’ve read on another thread of your Christmas plans and hope you have a wonderful time 🎄🏙

I agree -being in a similar boat- although I still send cards to 2 work colleagues DH kept in sort of touch with- just out of courtesy really.

I've drastically cut back on the number of cards I send now, especially given the cost of postage. I don't see the point in sending cards to anyone I haven't seen for years and who never get in touch at any other time of the year.

I would remove them from my list immediately. I'm beginning to find C cards a chore and will do yet another cull. Pending P.O. strike has helped with this decision.

I would just take them off my list.
If you return to those who send you a card you will be doing this for ever.
I am sure as they know you are now on your own they will understand.

I agree with other posters. Don’t send any this year. As you say, the majority of them you don’t know and have never met, and others you’ve only met briefly in the past.

I don't send any cards...except a nice one to my Mum who's 86.. I stopped about 10 years ago.....I never put cards up either apart from the one I get from my Mum 😁.... I certainly wouldn't be sending them to your DHs excolleagues and friends.....time to ring the changes

I agree with Calendargirl cut the cord now, no need to reciprocate even of they send you a card.
I hope you have a peaceful Christmas George'sgran

I would stop too, especially as you didn't mention that any of them wrote back to send their condolences!

If they didn't, they certainly deserve to be dropped.

May I add, that I was sorry to hear that you have lost your husband?

You don't hear from them the rest of the year so I wouldn't bother sending them cards. I only do close family and friends nowadays, the price of stamps is ridiculous.