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NfkDumpling Thu 24-Jan-13 21:15:36

Despite my best efforts I have been unable to source a housing with care home for my mother which will take her dog too.

So I'm trying to access as many grapevines as possible to see if anyone knows of anyone, preferably in Norfolk, who would like to foster a Cinnamon Trust supported, 10 year old good natured Staffie bitch.

Anne58 Thu 24-Jan-13 21:24:01

Nfk when I saw your thread title, I was going to post about Cinnamon Trust, but I see that you have already gone down that route.

Sorry that I can't help, but wish you luck in finding someone.

NfkDumpling Thu 24-Jan-13 21:31:33

Thanks.

glassortwo Thu 24-Jan-13 21:42:48

nfk I hope you find someone they are very loving dogs, I am sorry I can help.

Deedaa Thu 24-Jan-13 22:45:54

Can the Dog's Trust help at all? Perhaps as an interim measure while you keep looking? Such a nightmare though, I'm sure my children would sort out something for our cats, but you can't help worrying about What If!

NfkDumpling Fri 25-Jan-13 07:13:07

I'll contact them today. And I've done a few fliers to take to the pet shop, vets, etc. I figure the more people who know about her the more chance she stands of a good home. She deserves it.

We had big arguements - well horrendous rows really - with them when they got a Staffie. We may have been able to take on an easy lab, or one of our DGC would have taken it, but my DH isn't a dog lover. He put up with a cocker and then a springer while the children were growing. And a pony. So it wouldn't be fair to expect him to live with Jet. We now have three exitable little DGDs who would scare the dog as she's not used to children. It would be impossible for them to visit or stay or for us to go and stay with them. - I'm making excuses - it's guilt again!

She's staying with a friend who fosters dogs but it's very short term, just a couple of weeks. Hopefully the Cinnamon Trust will come up with something.

yogagran Fri 25-Jan-13 13:28:58

Could you ask your local vet or local dog training clubs to see if they can come up with anything. It's a case of trying to cast your net as wide as you can. I really hope that she finds a home soon.

Don't feel guilty though, you're doing the best you can

Tegan Fri 25-Jan-13 14:22:26

Don't feel guilty. Staffies are lovely dogs in the right home with the right people but they are very powerful dogs and you do have children around, and their safety is your number one priority. It's unfortunate that so many of the wrong people now own them and they've got a bad reputation. I used to know a staffie called Doreen who was the sweetest dog ever [also the happiest; she just exuded happiness but when she ran at you to give you a lick she'd send you flying].

yogagran Fri 25-Jan-13 14:26:22

Try Googling "staffie rescue", there is one main site and several local area ones too

www.staffierescue.co.uk/?page_id=10

Nelliemoser Fri 25-Jan-13 14:58:34

Unfortunately "Staffies" are really Staffordshire Bull Terriers Bred originally to terrorise bulls! The second part of the breed name should give some clues about their possible behaviour.
They are now quite popular with certain agressive looking hoodie types as a status symbol and as part of their "Hard Man" image.

I quite frankly I would not trust one anywhere near a young child. If they do "go bad" or get overexcited then their aggressive instincts kick in and they can do a lot of damage and do not easily stop.

I am quite sure there are some silly softie staffies out there who would not hurt a fly but I would never want to risk it.

I am waiting for the flak now! hard hat in place!

Tegan Fri 25-Jan-13 15:07:28

My friends staffie killed a sheep.

merlotgran Fri 25-Jan-13 15:16:05

You are absolutely right, Nelliemoser so no flak from me!

When I was a child, my best friend and her brother had a Staffie. He was adorable and great fun and I begged my parents to let me have one. Very sensibly they bought me a labrador instead. I know some of the bad press is unjustified but you can't take risks where children are involved.

glammanana Fri 25-Jan-13 15:23:01

Bad owners equals bad dogs unfortunatly,so sad when they get such a bad reputation but i am sure one of the charities will find a long term home for her,very best of luck.

NfkDumpling Fri 25-Jan-13 20:06:05

I think the Staffie has had most of it's bull baiting characteristics bred out now, but the big jaw muscles remain. If Jet were to turn it would be through nervousness rather than viciousness but that is less predictable. Put together with unpredictable toddlers would be a worrying mix. However, this would apply equally to many breeds. Jack Russells, I believe, have the worst reputation for biting - but with little jaws the damage tends to be less.

Jet has been a faithful friend to my mother and had a rather dull time of it. She deserves a bit of life in her old age.

Tegan Fri 25-Jan-13 22:55:50

How is she with other dogs?

NfkDumpling Sat 26-Jan-13 20:03:43

Well, she's fine out but I wasn't sure how she'd be with another dog on home ground. My friend who's been looking after her also looks after other dogs and when I went over to see them today, two dogs came bounding out falling over each other. Another dog has come to stay for the weekend. A beautiful, big 18 month labradoodle. After initial grumbles to establish seniorority they're very comfortable together. I hope she can find a home in Norfolk where mum can see her occasionally.

Deedaa Sat 26-Jan-13 22:57:46

I used to know a very frail old lady who had a very old staffie. One day she had a new postman who was scared of dogs so she introduced him to her old girl and they made friends. A few days later he was delivering to one of her neighbours and the neighbour's dog attacked him. The old staffie went dashing out and drove the dog off and the young postman couldn't believe it, he thought she was wonderful!
That said I would be wary of putting a strange dog of any breed with children and certainly wouldn't leave small children alone with any dog.

Tegan Sat 26-Jan-13 23:10:45

I wouldn't leave my grandchildren alone with my dog even though whippets are the gentlest dogs you could find. But nearly every photo of my children when they were growing up has at least one of the family dogs or cats in the photo. I've been wondering recently if I would have a change in attitiude now if I was a young mother again. One of my dogs went blind at an early age and could potentially have been likely to snap at people [although she never did]. Perhaps I just knew my dogs well enough, and they were spaniels and therefore had 'soft' mouths.

NfkDumpling Sun 27-Jan-13 21:51:11

A lovely couple came to see Jet today with a view to homing her. We knew they had children but not that the youngest was only three. The child was very good but Jet indicated she was not happy being in proximity to such a small human by hiding behind the television!

We now know for sure she needs a child free home!

NfkDumpling Mon 28-Jan-13 22:47:08

Just had a message from the Cinnamon Trust. They've found a home for Jet which sounds perfect - in Derbyshire! Rather a long way from Norfolk. I just have to tell my mother. Wish me luck!

gracesmum Mon 28-Jan-13 22:55:16

I am so glad for you and wish her, your mother and you well!

NfkDumpling Tue 29-Jan-13 07:08:47

Thanks. We're not there yet. Mum will probably throw a tantrum, want to go home and demand her dog back!

grrrranny Tue 29-Jan-13 09:15:21

I hope your mum is on a 'good' day and doesn't throw a 'tan-trum' and is able to understand how hard it is to get a good home for Jet. Good luck and well done.

Tegan Tue 29-Jan-13 10:36:57

The Cinnamon Trust are wonderful; my cousin has had several elderly dogs from them that she has given a good home to in their latter years. They are an organisation well worth supporting, unlike some other animal charities.

yogagran Tue 29-Jan-13 10:59:31

It's going to be so very hard on your Mum, I hope that it all works out well for everyone and that you find a suitable home for Jet