Granspet

Mawbroon, how could we not love them, when they love and adore us so much. Absolutely, unconditional, love!
I would return the lovely emoji's but don't have them. So !

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Your Grandpup, by my reckoning is 9months now. I think we forget what hard work it is with them for the first year. So I trust things are quite a bit better by now.
I am looking at my old girl (14) as I write. She was such a boisterous puppy, still had accidents if I went upstairs and I forgot to put her in the kitchen, (she would sit at the bottom looking up and wee, happy days ) and when a bit older would scale walls and jump fences and get out of garden and come back covered in mud.Luckily she loved her den, under the stairs in the kitchen so I had somewhere she was happy to be left.
She is like my right hand. We toddle through life together very happily.
Well done to you and your daughter for helping this poor little soul.

I do apologise for calling you watermelon !!!

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My Mom cooked the marrow bones and we would spread the marrow on white bread and we loved it! Brings back memories.

I am delighted things have improved in such a short time watermelon it was less than a week ago you said how tired and cross you were feeling when the pup had been with you all day. How he needed constant watching, how destructive he was, barking all day etc.
That is the trouble with reading a post and assuming that what it said then I is still the case.
As a dog owner presumably you remembered that puppyhood is like babyhood, good days, bad days, but that things rarely stay the same for long.
I hope nobody has been put off caring for a rescue dog based on your initial experiences as it has not taken long for the situation to improve immeasurably.

Very positive watermelon

Thanks for comments. This situation is only temporary, pup is already spending some time at work with daughter. He came from a good rescue and is well socialised. Even on the days when I had him for 8 hours he spent most of his time at home with his own family.
Yes he's hard work now but he'll grow up. I offered to help out, knowing it wouldn't be for long, underestimating how much time and attention pup would need, but he's learning fast and is adorable.

Honestly our adult children do expect 2 much from us.
I have 2 adorable pugs .Ive had pugs since 2001.B4 that i had labs.But theres no way id do what your doing.Mind you i have a lot of health conditions.The pup will attach to you not your daughter as you are doing all the raising of it .Bet in the future your be the one left holding the pup .Any way apart from all that i think your wonderful and brave .Ive raised scores of dogs in my life and have loved them all .But it cones easier when they are your own

I'm really surprised that the rescue allowed her to take the pup as she's out all day, most rescues are quite strict about this. Well done for doing this, it is above and beyond , but hopefully it won't be for long

Put it in a dog cage when you are busy or tired

I don't see this as your granny duty, tell your daughter to look for a dog sitter,they don't charge much, then he could be left in his own home.

This is above and beyond the call of duty given your past help/dedication.

I have also booked him in with the local dog walking service and with a doggy swimming class!

'on my lap'

I'm doing granny duties with a 2 year old black lab and thoroughly enjoying his company, even though he pulled on the lead yesterday causing me to jerk, now I have damaged ligaments in my knee and have enforced rest and no more walkies for a while. He still like to climb on my lab for a cuddle though!

Gosh ! a dilemma ...did your D discuss this with you prior to her re homing the puppy ? It seems a bit irresponsible if not ....do you take it walkies with your own dog ? Maybe your D thought it would be something to fill your days if you don't go out much (except for dog walking ! Is there any form of obedience class in your area in the daytime )unless the puppy is too young .....never had a dog so don't know ...have looked after a few though, when owner on hols ! you could maybe make some new friends as well ! Other than that, there are people who do 'dog walking' (don't know what is costs !) who could maybe take the puppy off your hands for a while...if you find you are really struggling, you are going to have to tell your D ...difficult as it is !

One of my neighbours has a young lab puppy. She is a doctor in the local hospital and her dog goes Into Doggy day care. They have done basic obedience and she continues with the training when she is at home. That is a serious option for you daughters puppy which she should at least consider. The puppy is not granny's problem.

You are doing a very generous thing in helping out your DD like this. I don't know the circumstances of your life or hers or why she got a dog that she would find difficult to look after. We have rescued fully grown dogs in this country and they were all very hard work, I suspect your DD got a bit carried away by the circumstances this dog was living in and didn't fully think it through. But, as someone else has said, the dog is here and you both need to work out something that works for you and DD - perhaps doggy day care for part of the week and you the rest. Good luck with this, I hope you find a solution.

It's a dog - not a grandchild, and your daughter's responsibility. If ahe cannot cope with a dog she should not have offered a home to it

Just to state the obvious - you could choose to be assertive. Decide what you feel ok about doing and explain that kindly and firmly to your daughter. Maybe once or twice a week is ok, maybe one walk per day or maybe you don't want to look after the dog at all and could offer to put cards up locally, to help find a dog-carer.
If you aren't assertive you might become a doormat, you might get resentful and end up angry... only do what you are genuinely happy to do. That way your relationships stay healthy and happy.

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Oh dear watermelon
I wish I had a magic wand to make this easier for you. I have no idea how long puppy training takes but fingers crossed this will be a quick one.

I made myself learn a few years ago that it was ok to say NO if I didn't want to do something. It takes a lot of practice as we don't want to offend etc.

So I don't think you're being unreasonable to feel tired, cross and a little resentful. I'm full of admiration for you but think your daughter is a naughty 'girl' for asking!

Do as much as you are willing and able to do, but no more. If you are feeling tired and resentful, it will damage your relationship with your daughter. There are doggy day care alternatives that could be used some of the time. Any puppy is hard work but much more so if you have one that hasn't been properly socialised in the critical early weeks.

You need to discuss your feelings with your daughter.

The dog will probably see you as leader if he spends most of his time with you. Whydo people rescue dogs from abroad when so many here need rescuing and why get one at all if you are going tobe at work when it needs you?

Definately not granny duties..........these dogs from abroad can be lots and lots of trouble.