Granspet

No it's not your granny duty. You have more than fulfilled that roll.
I admire you, I wouldn't want to do it. Are you responsible for his training too ?

No it is not your duty . It does make me cross when people buy / adopt a dog and the expect someone else to look after it and do all the hard work .

Having lived on and off in Cyprus for a long time and being well aware of how dogs are treated here, I think you may have a long way to go with any form of socialisation. Although Cyprus is in the EU and thinks itself as European they often have an Arab mentality to animals, and dogs in particular are not treated well in general, although saying that it is getting better, but slowly. I obviously don't know how the puppy was treated before he was rescued, but I think he will need a lot of love and care and human contact as I expect these may have been in very short supply in his little life so far. At least he can, hopefully, look forward to a better life than he will have had here.

Don't know another way to say this. The puppy should have been rehomed with someone who is at home during the day. I doubt if it will ever be happy being left alone at home for very long because it will probably have a problem with social anxiety. I think the best thing is to take the dog to puppy and then dog training classes for as long as possible, not just the basic training class. I say all this as someone who's had 4 problem rescue dogs. Bless.

I apologise in advance for all the questions but what does your own dog think of the puppy? Is he tolerant of the newcomer? Does the puppy accept the older dog as leader of the pack? Hopefully puppy will learn good behaviour from him.

Did your daughter ask if you would puppy-sit before she rescued him or was it a spur of the moment decision?

I think you need to tell your daughter how stressful you're finding it. Good luck and virtual that the hooligan can't dig up

I'm all for adopting an animal but certainly not for it to be shipped off to someone else to do the day to day care and certainly not to be kept in a cage most of the day,your DD may have all the good intentions towards the little one but you are not responsible she is,how will she look after it taking it to work all day ? a very long way to go here I'm afraid.

Oh dear!
I was asked if I would have a German shepherd puppy all day mon to Thurs if son and gf got one . I put my foot down so they rescued a young patterdale in the hope we would fall in love and say yes ..We fell in love with it but still said no . Shocked is an understatement I think but I stuck to my guns and they respect me for it I think . Luckily she is able to take it to work with her now as she works outside.

Oh, we had a Patterdale Terrier for 13 years he was soooo funny and adorable. We love dogs, but will not have another as I just dislike the 'small black handbags' that you have to cart around.

Did this puppy come via a rescue? if so why did they let your daughter have him when she is going out to work and would not be able to help him settle in and get over these problems, what would happen to this poor puppy if you cant have him?

That's right jacksmum, I don't understand that either. Please don't get a dog if you are out at work all day its just not fair.
I can understand you feeling resentful watermeadow, rescue dogs often require extra care initially. Good luck with him.

Pup just has normal puppy behaviour, they're all hard work.
Daughter aims to take him to work with her once he's reliably House-trained and being with my dog will help him learn. He certainly won't be shut in his crate until he feels safe there but a teething puppy can't be left loose while getting used to being left for short periods. This is why I won't leave him alone while he's in my care.
He was lucky to be rescued very young, we know that dogs are badly treated in Cyprus.

Where does pup sleep at night?
My latest rescue came at 10 weeks old and had been kept in a shed , i made up a crate for her on day 1, and left the door open all day, put nice soft jumper in there that i had worn that evening so it had my scent on it ,and put a "Kong toy" filled with some mashed up frozen kibble in it, she gingerly got in the crate and spent an hour getting the food out of the kong then fell asleep in there , i did this everyday for a week and she soon realised that the crate was a nice place to be, at night i just shut the door , i slept on the sofa for 3 nights to settle her in her new home, she loves her crate and still sleeps in it with door open now, but no problems with chewing anything from her , Has your daughter thought of joining a good dog training club to help he and puppy bond and meet other puppy owners?

I don't think people should take on a pet if they need someone else to look after it for them.

The info from jacksmum looks good but it still shouldn't be the owner's mum doing that.

In big cities there are professional dog walkers who will dog sit for working dog owners and including taking your dog/puppy out for a necessary walk.

Does your DD live near any such service?

You're doing a wonderful job Watermelon

Ignore all the negative remarks. The fact is, the puppy is here, you've very nobly agreed to help out and that's going to be a bit difficult at first. You're an experienced dog owner, a loving and helpful mum and grandmother.

Things will get better. Good on you for taking this on.

Not for me

Watermelon well done, we are there to help. jacks mum gave some brilliant advice. All I can give is Morrisons sells raw marrow bones, two in a pack, one to freeze. One of these really helps the teething stage, sucking and gnawing for hours, they are too tough to break off. It is a phase and in months to come it will be smooth sailing. All the best, when we give live it is said it comes back ten fold.

The dog will probably see you as leader if he spends most of his time with you. Whydo people rescue dogs from abroad when so many here need rescuing and why get one at all if you are going tobe at work when it needs you?

Definately not granny duties..........these dogs from abroad can be lots and lots of trouble.

Do as much as you are willing and able to do, but no more. If you are feeling tired and resentful, it will damage your relationship with your daughter. There are doggy day care alternatives that could be used some of the time. Any puppy is hard work but much more so if you have one that hasn't been properly socialised in the critical early weeks.

You need to discuss your feelings with your daughter.

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Oh dear watermelon
I wish I had a magic wand to make this easier for you. I have no idea how long puppy training takes but fingers crossed this will be a quick one.

I made myself learn a few years ago that it was ok to say NO if I didn't want to do something. It takes a lot of practice as we don't want to offend etc.

So I don't think you're being unreasonable to feel tired, cross and a little resentful. I'm full of admiration for you but think your daughter is a naughty 'girl' for asking!

Just to state the obvious - you could choose to be assertive. Decide what you feel ok about doing and explain that kindly and firmly to your daughter. Maybe once or twice a week is ok, maybe one walk per day or maybe you don't want to look after the dog at all and could offer to put cards up locally, to help find a dog-carer.
If you aren't assertive you might become a doormat, you might get resentful and end up angry... only do what you are genuinely happy to do. That way your relationships stay healthy and happy.

It's a dog - not a grandchild, and your daughter's responsibility. If ahe cannot cope with a dog she should not have offered a home to it

You are doing a very generous thing in helping out your DD like this. I don't know the circumstances of your life or hers or why she got a dog that she would find difficult to look after. We have rescued fully grown dogs in this country and they were all very hard work, I suspect your DD got a bit carried away by the circumstances this dog was living in and didn't fully think it through. But, as someone else has said, the dog is here and you both need to work out something that works for you and DD - perhaps doggy day care for part of the week and you the rest. Good luck with this, I hope you find a solution.

One of my neighbours has a young lab puppy. She is a doctor in the local hospital and her dog goes Into Doggy day care. They have done basic obedience and she continues with the training when she is at home. That is a serious option for you daughters puppy which she should at least consider. The puppy is not granny's problem.