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I don't want to do it but...

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NfkDumpling Fri 21-Jul-17 07:34:05

(((Hugs))) Just come on to offer sympathy and vibes of courage if the deed has to be done and agree with MawBroon that it's worth having the vet come to your house if you can afford it.

Anya Fri 21-Jul-17 07:24:53

Hilda as her 'mummy' you will know when the time is right to let her go. It won't make it any easier but you can't let her suffer when you feel that time has come.

I'm getting to that stage with my old dog. I noticed he was having difficulty balancing on three legs to cock the other last night. I'm only telling you that so you will know I understand completely how you feel

(((hugs)))

Christinefrance Fri 21-Jul-17 07:05:04

Your beautiful little girl has done so well hilda now is the time to take advice from the vet and from your little girl. MawBroon is right she will let you know when she has had enough. Love to both of you, you will find the strength to do the right thing when its time.

cornergran Thu 20-Jul-17 23:28:26

maw has said it all I think. We've taken that decision with two dogs, so hard but so necessary. Thinking of you hilda and also of your lovely companion. Love to you both.

hildajenniJ Thu 20-Jul-17 23:13:06

Thank you everyone. Poor girl has had several grand mall type seizures too. Very distressing for her. Last time I was with her at the vet a suspected brain tumour was diagnosed. The vet said then that she maybe had another month, that was in March! If we manage to make it to next Tuesday, it will be her eighteenth birthday.

Iam64 Thu 20-Jul-17 23:02:31

I'm another in agreement wit MawBroon.
What a lovely dog hilda, there is nothing like the love we give our dogs or the love they give to us.
Sending love to both of you x

rosesarered Thu 20-Jul-17 22:26:41

Me too!
Your lovely little dog has had a good life Hilda and a long one, in the end only you can decide what is best for her.?

phoenix Thu 20-Jul-17 22:18:06

I agree with everything that MawBroon says.

MawBroon Thu 20-Jul-17 22:15:23

I too might be tempted to take one day at a time. I have a theory that a dog will tell you when (s) he has had enough and the morning we said Goodbye to Gracie she had just been lying on her bed, following me with her eyes.
It cost more (I think £80 extra or so) to have the vet come out but it was worth it as that one way trip is so awful. As it was she knew nothing about why the "nice ladies" (vet and nurse) were there. It could nor have been handled more sensitively or lovingly (to me too!) and there is possibly always the option that the vet will find another underlying reason without invasive tests.
The waiting was worse than the deed. Of course I wept as I stroked her head and whispered to her but she would have known nothing except that she was in the arms of the one who loved her best.
Wishing you courage ??

nanaK54 Thu 20-Jul-17 22:07:41

Oh it is so hard, but as aggie suggests go along to the vet in the hope that it may not be something terrible.
Sending you hugs, flowers and sunshine

phoenix Thu 20-Jul-17 22:07:01

Oh Hilda, it is so damn hard.

We want to do the decent thing for them, we owe it to them.

You say she is eating, drinking and " reacting " (bless her!) to the postman.

Apart from the bleeding and clots, does she seem in any pain or distress?

If not, then I would be inclined to just carry on taking each day as it comes.

One of my cats was very elderly, got a bit frail, but was eating, going out etc, then just quietly died. Another one was much younger, but having distressing fits, so we had to have her put to sleep.

Of course only you can gauge how you think she is feeling, but sending much love to you all. X

aggie Thu 20-Jul-17 21:58:52

Oh Dear poor you , poor wee dog , maybe the vet can see something not as bad as you think xxxxxxx

hildajenniJ Thu 20-Jul-17 21:54:43

I think the time has come.
My lovely little Parson Russell terrier needs to see the vet. She has been bleeding from the mouth, but I cannot see where. Tonight there are clots on the sofa throws. I know what the vet will say, as she is too old to withstand an anaesthetic or other exploratory treatment. I can't let this go on though, so I'm sitting here writing, with tears in my eyes. I've had this precious little girl for seventeen years, and don't want to say goodbye. She has been such a good dog. Making the decision is so hard, but I must, for her same as I don't want her to suffer.
The thing is, she is still eating and drinking and growling at the postman. I an torn.
Help!