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So exasperated with our cat right now !

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Washerwoman Fri 10-Nov-17 22:20:29

Sorry just need to vent !our cat has for the second time this week been dirty despite a litter tray being left down in the bathroom -we have a bungalow-and it's immediately accessible. Although I've begun to hate the stink from the tray,and the mess he makes kicking it all over.The other day he pooped all over the bath mat in our other bathroom.And I have just nearly injured myself scrabbling under our bed ,which is far too heavy to move,because he's done it again on the carpet.I'm so fed up with him at the moment.He is 14 ,but very fit ,healthy and sprightly for his age.We've had other cats that have lived to 15 and 19 years and been very frail -but he's a long way from that.And he doesn't appear to have dementia.No excessive meowing and wandering around.This happened quite often last winter -he spends the summer months outside ,and has a cosy bed in the summer house for nights then.I just feel bad with winter coming,but no longer feel I can trust him in the house.This happened tonight whilst I was in and he was sleeping in the lounge whilst we watched TV.Then he took himself off to use our newish carpet in our bedroom.I know I won't banish him outside totally.When it's freezing or wet I will feel too bad.But right at this moment I never want another cat.And that's after a lifetime of cat ownership.We have 2 spaniels and they are far less trouble,and less messy and that's saying something !

MissAdventure Fri 10-Nov-17 22:37:05

In short then; the cat's in the doghouse? smile
I had a cat who never quite got the hang of toilet training, and she would really pick her places. It really got me down.

Jalima1108 Fri 10-Nov-17 22:41:33

It really does stink, doesn't it.
One cat pooed in my slipper years ago - without me realising - and I put the slipper on! Ugh.

Chewbacca Fri 10-Nov-17 22:43:58

grin Jalima sorry for laughing!

Jalima1108 Fri 10-Nov-17 22:45:17

It wasn't funny - it wasn't even my cat!
And we did stay good friends for the remaining 4 years of his life grin

Primrose65 Fri 10-Nov-17 22:48:06

Usually, it's a sign of being unwell but it sounds like he's stressed by the change of routine. His behaviour is stressing you & it ends up in a bit of a vicious circle. Have you tried Feliway? For some stressed moggies it can be a quick and easy cure.

Chewbacca Fri 10-Nov-17 22:52:41

It gets worse Jalima! grin

My cats always had a clean litter tray too but one of them had a real mean streak when she was vexed with me. She would often come and wee, right by the side of me and often on my feet, whilst I was talking on the phone. She never did it any other time; only when I was on the phone. And she would stare straight at me whilst she was doing it too!

annsixty Fri 10-Nov-17 22:59:26

My D has 3 cats and they do use their trays but then go out "to play"
I have told her to get rid of the trays asap.
She now has a Dog, he is about 10 months old and he has occasionally gone over and used the cats tray for a wee!!

MissAdventure Sat 11-Nov-17 00:13:48

My kittens have always been given a few weeks of in indoor litter tray, which gets sneakily nearer the door each day or two. Then no more litter trays indoors. I have found female cats worse for being wholly reliable.

Tegan2 Sat 11-Nov-17 02:51:11

My last cat was adorable but SO dirty. We had a green cooker at the time and she would wee on top of the cooker. Shut in any room for a short period of time and she would poo there. It really was horrible. After she died I never had another cat. I'd never had the problem before and I found it very difficult to cope with.

Willow500 Sat 11-Nov-17 05:48:27

I've had this problem with one of my cats. She sleeps in the bedroom with me and although there is a tray in the en-suite she would poop under the bed or in the corner of the room. I seem to have solved it by putting an extra tray in the bedroom on a puppy pad and blocking under the bed with storage boxes. She now uses that for p's and the bathroom one for poos. We do have another two downstairs as well as one in another bedroom for my other cat who spends the day upstairs. At 14 even though he looks ok he may be unwell so a visit to the vet might be called for.

BlueBelle Sat 11-Nov-17 07:29:51

Surely any difference in an elderly cat calls for a check if he’s always been clean for the rest of his life

If he s been an outdoor cat all summer living and sleeping outdoors then surely now bringing him indoors is where the confusion lies and he’s just carrying on ‘as normal’ as he would outdoors
You say this was a problem last year do you mean the crying and wailing you speak off in the previous sentence or do you mean he was pooping around the house last year ...if so then it’s the change over that confuses him and he really can’t be blamed
I don’t really understand why you have a cat if it lives outside half the year or maybe its to catch mice ? Don’t people usually have cats as companions but maybe I ve understood your post wrongly

Nanna58 Sat 11-Nov-17 08:10:15

Usually cats are so clean they will not use a dirty tray. With my cats , on the occasions they needed a tray, I found it was worth spending more on litter so it was always pristine , otherwise they would express their displeasure by not using it!

Primrose65 Sat 11-Nov-17 09:36:02

My cat is like that too Nanna58. She would sit and call me to clean out the tray before she used it, which drove me mad.
I bought a Cat Genie about 5 years ago and it's been fabulous.

Jalima1108 Sat 11-Nov-17 09:43:05

My D has 3 cats and they do use their trays but then go out "to play"
I have told her to get rid of the trays asap.

Annsixty the trouble then is that they go and do it in neighbouring gardens (never their own).
Stick to the litter trays, ansixty's DD!!

glammanana Sat 11-Nov-17 09:49:15

Nanna/Primrose my chap is like that also there are so many good quality cat litter brands that are all worth while investing in as they gel the mess and make it easy to dispose of leaving no bad smell,I change Olivers every other morning without fail.
Since Olly has been allowed out in the back garden he rarely uses indoors and has been known to use next doors tray when he goes visiting the next garden,I think maybe your cat Washerwoman should have a health check just to make sure he is in good health.

goldengirl Sat 11-Nov-17 10:56:04

We have 2 cats who prefer going to the loo outside than using a tray. When I brought them home [I think they would have been around 8 years old - they're brothers] and gave them a tray they stared at me as if I was mad. We had a cat flap installed and they've been no trouble since - though I'd like to know where they do 'go' [we have a field at the back] but they're not out for long. However getting them into their cages to take them to the vet is horrendous. They arrive in a mess which the vet nurses kindly clean up and then they mess again on the way home. Feliway and other products do not seem to work and they are so distressed I've given up taking them as they spend 99% of their time indoors. I would of course take them if anything was wrong but luckily so far they're fine and are now well into their teens. Both had been in bad accidents before I had them so that is probably something to do with it. Perhaps they need some counselling!!!

Charleygirl Sat 11-Nov-17 11:01:35

mY cat goes out early am and returns home around 12 hours later but I am convinced that it is her belly and bladder that bring her home. She has stopped using the great outdoors, preferring her litter tray.

Provided your litter tray is clean because some cats will mess in the house if they think that they need fresh litter-I do think that he needs a trip to the vet.

merlotgran Sat 11-Nov-17 11:19:50

Heavens! I didn't realise how 'perfect' my ageing cat is.

She began life living outdoors all the time with the chickens as her close companions. When the terriers finally allowed her indoors I thought she'd need a litter tray but not a bit of it. Even when she 'goes' in the garden she makes sure it's out of sight and never in the veg patch.

She still goes out every night even in the coldest weather and spends most days lolling on our bed but even when she has accidentally been shut in there she has never made a mess.

Her one and only accident was when DH was rushed into hospital last January and both dogs picked up on the anxiety by refusing to get out of his chair so she weed in the log basket. That shifted 'em. grin

Chewbacca Sat 11-Nov-17 11:23:56

Whilst we're on the subject of pet "accidents", does anyone have any good ideas or recommendations on how to remove the smells? I've sometimes come home from work to find a pile of poo in the corner of the carpet that has clearly been there for some time. Even once the mess has been cleared away and carpet scrubbed with carpet shampoo, the stains and lingering smells remain. Anyone found something that clears it?

Jalima1108 Sat 11-Nov-17 12:05:51

Bicarbonate of soda dissolved in hot water is supposed to take the smell away.

Jalima1108 Sat 11-Nov-17 12:06:17

Try on a small patch of carpet first though!

oldgoat Sat 11-Nov-17 12:51:15

We use Simple Solution Urine Destroyer from the pet shop. It hasn't taken the colour out of our carpets though you need to check a small area first. It seems to remove all smells.

Willow500 Sat 11-Nov-17 13:17:45

I use Vanish Carpet Care - it's the only thing I've found that removes stains. There is another product for urine which you use with a blue light to spot the marking and then once its cleaned you spray the solution on. This is good for areas where they've sprayed or hard areas. My girl isn't well at all today and I've had to clean the carpet in several places where she's been sick. Quite worried about her :-(

Washerwoman Sat 11-Nov-17 14:22:24

Thanks for the responses.A bit more info on him.Rehomed at 6 months 13 years ago.My 8th cat in my lifetime,often had two together but only one now.A while since last one died and he was the softest ,soppiest pudding whereas this boy is a cat that walks alone.Always has been.Not a cuddly cat.Loves his ears tickled but tickle anywhere else at your peril!Bluebelle my experience has been you can get a cat as a companion but its very much at their discretion,we think as a kitten he was either badly handled or teased as all but younger DD suffered scratches in the early days.Until we realised he hates being confined indoors unless it's his choice.Isn't evicted to hunt mice in summer.Rather fed top quality cat food and although takes up his 'summer residence' as we call it is always around ,but once April / May arrives is very sniffy about coming in other than to kitchen to eat if raining. Yesterday he'd only been in for about an hour.He declined offers to comensure in during the day.I often joke I should get a concierge jacket with epaulettes as I feel like his personal doorwoman !Doing his rounds of the cul de sac and sat on 'his' bench.Litter tray spotlessly clean with expensive litter I've always used.I clean it everything he uses it to poo,I'm fussy !Had his annual health check and boosters recently and declared fit and well.Sounds off but I think he's just a B awkward cat!I sound harsh,but I am very fond of the handsome beast.
The upshot is in colder months will be allowed into the conservatory or hall ,which have laminate flooring.Cosy bed and litter tray provided.I refuse to dot litter trays all over the place,but that's me I know some would.He can come into the lounge in the evening when we are both in and all doors to carpeted rooms closed.Out at night where he has a very snuggly bed in the summer house,and I'm going to put it in a large cardboard box on its side for extra draught protection.
Thanks for the soda bicarb tip.Just got a new box.Used up all my carpet cleaner last night but room still slightly pongy so will crawl back under with a solution of that.I was just so frustrated last night because for all the above reasons feel a big poop in the most inaccessible place was unnecessary but realistically that animals for you !